my son is having a hard time in grade 6. i have had 4 letters sent home cause hes not doing home work or making up his own home work, just so he can finish it fast to play games. i took the games and the system way til his grades are better...is that wrong?
2006-10-29 17:02:34 · 21 answers · asked by twisted 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I completely agree with the with "united mom & Dad" ! Our kids are put into harms way too much by parents afraid to set limits. Ultimately you are doing him no favors at all by skrimping on the "discipline" , which is diffrent from " punishment ". It worked well with my children to allow them as many bites of dessert that they ate of dinner.Let me tell you , only two bites of pie & Ice cream was worse for them then none. LOL. May I suggest letting him spend as much time on the game as he did on his homework. Good luck to you!!!! Stay strong and you will earn his endless devotion ( eventualy)
2006-10-29 17:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. My son is 7yrs old and I have had the same problem with his schooling. We took EVERYTHING out of his room - his t.v. all his toys and all his games. Until we got a note from the teacher or better grades. It did take 2 weeks and kinda brake my heart to see him doing nothing but reading and studying but he now had nothing but A's and B's so as you can see it works. All these new games take up so many little boys minds these days that it just gets in the way. My son now is only allowed 1 hour everyday to play his games. But if his grades change for the worse it's back to no games. Good luck.
2006-10-30 11:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong. You did awesome. Kids need to understand that games isn't a real world learning tool. I agree with a few of the other responders to your question: use the game system as a rewarding tool. If the kid does better (based on a grading scale) then he can play. So, tell him if he gets A schoolwork - then he can play all he wants. But make sure he does his schoolwork first. Make him earn it so he can play it on the weekend - so you don't get any letters during the week. Continue great parenting work!
2006-10-29 17:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say whether it is right or wrong. I didn't just give my daughter a game system because she wanted it. In our home those sorts of things were privliges that she had to EARN by her behavior.
As for the homework that is your son's responsiblity not your's so why you are taking the game system away is beyond my comprehension. If he falls behind he will fall behind, all his friends will move up and on to 7th grade and he will be left back in elementary school. It won't be the end of the world. He will learn a valuable lesson. My daughter failed highschool, got her GED in adult ed classes, and went on to gain and maintain a 4.0 grade average in college. Sometimes failure is the first step towards success. Make his homework HIS responsiblity. You've already been through elementary school why should it be your's?
2006-10-29 18:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! This is not wrong. This is in fact GOOD. This is a very good FIRST step in your parenting of this child. Computer games and console games are privileges and rewards for his good behavior and his good academics. They are not rights. You should insist that he work for quality, not quantity or quick results. If he should learn those bad habits, they will horribly affect his school work in middle and high school, which will in turn totally mess up his chances for college and employment. NOW is the best time to start him on the right path: self discipline and academic success before games and playtime.
2006-10-29 17:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by mjteegarden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my sons had times when they were resistant to doing the right thing, I would take away the gaming system till vacation time. No games while school was in session. At ALL. They would have to earn them back.
2006-10-30 05:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could use the reward system. If he gets better grades you let him play a bit but you should be in control of the game system. It is not wrong at all. Good luck !
2006-10-29 17:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Roger89 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You did the right thing. Kids today get so easily caught up in the ever increasingly addictive world of gaming that they are losing touch with reality. I am glad to see that you did the responsible thing, by taking it away. He/she needs to know that are more important things than games, and that gaming will not get him through school and will not get him a job one day. He/she needs to be enlightened on the harsh realities of modern life. You are a GOOD PARENT! Keep it up! God Bless!
2006-10-29 17:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by empangeniguy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my son is also the same grade and having the same problems in school. i have not taken any thing away from but i do get weekly report cards from all his teachers. he now does his homework right after school so he can play. if your child is having a hard time after he try-es his best then after a month or two have him tested or get him a tutor. Amy
2006-10-29 17:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would it be wrong? Your sons behavior is what is wrong. Would you think it would be better to let him keep it and think games are more important than school. Kids need to learn there are concequences for their actions. They need to learn to accept responsibility for their own actions. If he gets what he wants, when he wants, regardless of his conduct, how is he learning that? You wont always be there to bail him out. My girlfriends kids were getting totally out of hand so we took every toy they had and made them earn them back. Did I feel guilty? Absolutely not!!! And watching SuperNanny one night, Jo did the same thing.
2006-10-29 17:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by tmills883 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋