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Im turning 18 next month, and I am planning to move out. Where I live now, I do not see a bright opportunity in career wise. I have saved money and I would like to see the world and begin college. Everything I have carefully analyzed and looked at... costs..etc. but one thing bothers me. My parents don't want me to go, and honestly, I will miss them very much. I have to ask to borrow their credit card, to order my plane ticket within the next few days and im nervous. They make me feel bad about leaving them, since, i will only seem them occationally, rather then everyday. Should I drop all my plans, and not move out...(This opportunity is a one time thing) or should I go ahead with it, and things will get better?

2006-10-29 16:44:50 · 13 answers · asked by chemicalromance 1 in Family & Relationships Family

13 answers

Go ahead with it. It's YOUR future not theirs. Try to visit them as much as possible though! Hope this helps!

2006-10-29 16:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by brown eyed gurl 2 · 0 0

I came from a small town and kind of know what you are going thru. I was the oldest and my parents just did not want me to leave. But, you have to spread your wings and try to do things on your own. I am by no means saying to disrespect your parents on any level. Your parents are your parents and you should cherish that for as long as you have them. BUT, you have to do what is right for you and your future. In my home town, where my 5 brothers and sisters still live, none of them have college degrees and they either work for minimum wage or in the oil field industry which is dangerous. I moved away, went to school and am now have a great career in the field of my choice. My sisters and one brother tried school but being that close to my family, it was always something and duty called. Before they knew it, they dropped out of school. Now, I know things may be different for you and your family but this is my experience. So, think about it and you will always make the right decision for you! Take care! There are 2 great answers by parents I think they are asnowbird and ellymar or something like that......they are 2-3 above mine.....read them.....they are fantabulous!!!!

2006-10-29 17:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by okiegrl31 2 · 0 0

If you are 18, then you are an adult. Sounds like you have thought about this for some time. I say.......go ahead. You can start your career or school. There is NO reason if it doesn't work out that you can come back home. There is no disgrace in that. I am sure they will be there with open arms if that is the case. If you make it on your own, they will also be very pleased. Either way, it will be a growing experience... good luck

2006-10-29 16:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0 0

If this is a once in a lifetime chance you may need to just do it or you may always wonder. You can keep in contact by calling them every so often. But I do not think I can make such a choice for you. When I moved out my parents took it hard. It is going on 2 yrs now and they finally stopped asking me to come back home. Hope this helps some.

2006-10-29 16:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by CGS 3 · 0 0

You know,... I see you doing exactly what you are planning to do, but you will always feel torn inside for leaving your parents behind. This will affect your performance in everything you want to pursue. Make a promise to yourself that you will persevere no matter what!!!.... Be mature about it, because obviously your parents aren't. This is your life. Don't let this opportunity pass you by.
My cousin dropped his studies (he had a dream) at a university and moved back in with his parents... changed his plans completely. (only child)
Don't let this happen to you. Keep in touch with Mom and Dad, but show them that you are a big girl now and very determined to reach your goals.

2006-10-29 17:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0 0

As a parent myself I have a hard time with the idea of my children moving out , My daughter moved out 2 yrs ago I recall that day like it was yesterday , I hated anyone and everyone that helped her . Now my youngest is 20 and he is ready to move out and it kills me inside but I know it is his time,Your mom and dad are not trying to stop you ,They just love you so much and want to make sure you are safe and are not doing with out. Never ever be afraid to ask , or talk to your parents you will learn in the end they are and always will be your one true best friend. Sit down with them and explain everything to them , make sure to write them and send them pic's ,it will be hard on all of you at first but in the end it will be worth it , may god keep a angel with you so you can be safe on your journey and my it be everything and more then you hoped for , and never forget that with your parents it is only love that keeps us holding are children back sometimes.

2006-10-29 16:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by asnowbird1961 1 · 0 0

Happy Birthday, Next month.

As a parent with two grown daughters: It was the hardest thing for me to have to come to terms with. One day my youngest was there, the next she was gone.

Discuss with mom and dad your desire to be on your own. Point out the pros and let them know that you are aware of the cons. Assure them you will be careful and that you feel you are old enough, capable enough to care for yourself.

Then listen to their side.

You are 18. That is pretty big stuff. But you are only 18. You have many years ahead of you. Not everything has to be done NOW! Make sure you are truly prepared. That you have thought everything out. Then follow your heart....

Take care and I know your future will be bright.

2006-10-29 16:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by ellymar 2 · 0 0

iam in exactly the same, i am turning 18 next month and my parents dont want me to go either. But this is the rest of our lives we are talking about. We have to leave the nest sometime right???

2006-10-29 17:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

this is comming from a girl with dreams like that, I got married and now I am 46still live in the same town I grew up in, never left, never got to see hardly any thing, me and a girl friend had plans to leave and see the world, get jobs, but I met this guy and got married, and never had the chance to do any thing like that sinse, go for it. you only live once!

2006-10-29 16:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by kat_lucas60 2 · 0 0

Since this is a once in a lifetime specific trip, you should definitely go. Take a cellphone that takes pictures with you to call your folks every day.

2006-10-29 18:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0 0

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