There is this girl, that i really, really like. She is my best friend, and I want to go out, but she said that the farthest she will go is friends with benefits. i just dont think i could handle it. It would make me more connected. how can i get over her, and move on. thanx
2006-10-29 16:41:26 · 16 answers · asked by Joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this whole friends with benefits is the most ridiculous fad ever. just call it what it is sleeping with any one any time. find yourself a decent girl with morals, you deserve it.
2006-10-29 16:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You've got to explain exactly how you feel. I'm in a similar situation with a girl from work, although we've been in a "casual" relationship for a week now; and you're right you will get more connected and it will start to mess with your head - trust me! Tell her your feelings and if she isn't interested, put some distance between the two of you. Keep yourself occupied with other things and everytime you start thinking about her, and what a perfect girlfriend she would be etc. etc. STOP! Get your mind on something else, and you'll be over her in no time.
2006-10-29 17:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ron Burgundy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the benefits and enjoy. She may find after having good love and loving with you that you're the best for her. But she's not going to know until she tries some losers.
2006-10-29 16:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really really like her, then your heart is already invested. Either convince her that you would be choice boyfriend material, or walk. To stay friends will just increase your frustration, and to give in the "benefits" thing, which is a joke, will break your heart & probably make you hate her.
Hang in there hon.
2006-10-29 16:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rocker Chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits is a really sick idea. I am on the verge of vomiting cause I'm rembering an offer I had to be friends with benefits. Nasty.
Hold out for the girl who you can love for the rest of your life, not just for the next night.
2006-10-29 16:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ciera 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Isn't friends with benefits pretty much being friends but acting like you're going out? Just start out little by little. Start talking to her, then sit closer to her, then hold hands, then hug on a daily basis...so on and so forth.
2006-10-29 16:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by brown eyed gurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She isnt the one for you and i think you should stay as friends with no befinfits. lol. If you start as friends with benifits when you both find someone to have a relationship the friend ship will be broken, maybe beyond repair
2006-10-29 16:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT? Friends with benefits is more than you can handle??? Are you friggin' nuts...or lack of??? Dude, do you know for sure it will never turn in to more? Give it to her hard...go deeeeeep! If you rock her socks, she might take you anyway! And if she don't, you got to see whats what! You better grow a pair, go get it and hit it! You gotta get in where you fit in! }:-)
2006-10-29 16:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by sixfoot8bkr 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find a girlfriend to reap the benefits and keep your best friend just that!
2006-10-29 16:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go for it, but start off slowly. Once she sees what a great b/f you could be, she won't be able to resist you. Good luck.
2006-10-29 17:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't say you're in love with her so that's a start! She doesn't want to be with you properly and is prepared to use you, move on!
2006-10-29 19:55:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋