Before my mother died she confided in me about this. No one else knows in my family. My wife says to let it go. Part of me wants to help tend to my father's harm. These people may want/need to know more about the man who brought them into the world; you know, his health etc. What would u do? And, of course, time has passed, and I'm not sure how to find them.
2006-10-29 16:39:49 · 10 answers · asked by Tall Guy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, when I was 18 years old, my mother told me that I also had three siblings from my father. Within several months I found my half-sister and we started talking and within a couple weeks met. As for my two half-brothers it took them a little longer, as I am younger than both of them and their mother told them I was the reason their family was no longer together (and I am named after my father). About two years later we met. Everything has been really good since then. My father has passed, but both our mothers are still alive. While our mothers still don't see eye to eye, us kids have let it go and we get along awesome. I guess it depends on your ages too. While some consider us half siblings, we don't consider each other half a person. It makes for interesting conversation when we bring up each others ages and birthdates though.
Boy "half"- July 8, 1974
Girl - August 3, 1974
Girl - June 11, 1976
Boy "half" - Ocotber 9, 1979
Me - Feb. 9, 1980
Girl "half" - September 12, 1981
Boy - October 4, 1982
See what I mean?
2006-10-29 17:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh - happened to me. Found out that I had a brother from my father's first wife (wasn't my mother like I thought). Didn't meet my "brother" for another 15 years and he turned out to be more like my father than my brother and I. Interesting guy - not really a brother but just my father's son.
I would try finding your siblings. It can't hurt. If they don't want to meet, leave it at that. If you let it go, you will wonder all of your life.
2006-10-30 00:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. PhD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not find them. I found out a few years ago that my father that Ive know for alll my life is not my bio father. I am 34 years old. I got all the info i could get from my mother and I tried to locate my bio father and when I did, i was denied. NOt by him but his wife, I guess I could of approached the matter in person instead of by phone but i was scared and didnt know what to expect. Its been 5 years since i made that phone call and I never got a return call. sometimes I wish I never should of made that phone call but then again I hope and praye that they would give me a chance to get to know them and they know me and children. I know I have brothers and sisters out there and hope that they will one day try to find me if they were to find out about me, cause i know his wife didnt want to know anything about me. Good luck with your quest if you do decide to locate them.
2006-10-30 00:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your father alive? If he is, how does he feel about it? It probably should be up to him. If he isn't alive, you might try registering his name for them to locate you, should they ever want to. Try the website below. Maybe it will help
Searching for Birth Relatives: Adoption General Information Packet
Author(s): Child Welfare Information Gateway
This collection of factsheets provides an overview of the impact of adoption on birth parents and adopted persons and examines issues related to the search process. Coping skills, support groups, resources for searching, and state laws regarding access to adoption records are discussed.
http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/adoption_gip_three.cfm
2006-10-30 00:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one can never have too much family, and you need to think that your mom told you this info for a reason. It is not your siblings fault for the sins of your father, who knows they could be one of the best things to happen to you,,,i would look for them.
2006-10-30 01:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by belinda b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the past in the past. Go forward in life.
2006-10-30 00:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to find them, you'd both be filling in a lot of blanks for each other.
2006-10-30 02:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as for me, I would have to find them... I love family... it is not their fault who or what fathered them... but I would be very cautious about it.... search respectfully... if you find them, write a letter introducing urself,and that you would like to meet them, IF they feel it is something they would like to do..... do NOT push urself on them... as for finding them, you might have to go thru a PI on that one...... God bless
2006-10-30 00:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would want to meet them no matter what, so try
2006-10-30 00:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by ...Liz-Lee... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its over ..// atleast its good ur thinking to help ur unknown blood relation..// leave it to god ..//
2006-10-30 00:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by logu - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋