ok so i have been going out with her for 1year and 3months. we got a apartment and after only a month she said she was feeling numb and empty. She says she still loves me and is happy with me so we didnt break up. I am just confused by this because nothing like this has happened before. I told her to talk to her mom because they havent in 6months now and i think thats what is wrong but she wont. If anyone could try to clear this up for me so i understand alittle better that would be great.
2006-10-29 16:37:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Numb and Empty... if heard those words several times in my life... used them myself... but everytime i heard them they meant something else... yet they all related to the fact that she might feel lost inside or dead.
Sometimes people feel like they have a hole in their hurt... they feel like their falling and they don't seem to care. They have no feelings towards anything (feeling so numb) and inside, you just don't know what's going on. You don't know why you feel this way or if its even normal. You want it to be normal so that u have an excuse to why u feel so dark and empty inside and that just makes this hole u feel like u have inside bigger. Eventually it'll hurt because you feel so helpless and pathetic and u don't know why... u feel alone. Like this world isn't living for you and u aren't living for this world... u feel dead inside. When your dead ure numb and empty... and when u feel dead u feel like u just aint living anymore.
It can be the start or can be part of some sort of depression.
Thats my interpreationg... hope i helped... sorry.
2006-10-29 16:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by X Anonymous 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Feeling Empty In A Relationship
2016-11-16 20:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes these emotions are immature, but it is an understandable thing. I mean it irks me when a guy tells me he has slept with 10, or 30, women. But i don't think one should have sex with just anyone. You should figure out why this bothers you so much, and really, if you look at it another way, maybe she hasn't had as much experience as you... A lot of these people she slept with once.... Perhaps you slept with the girls you have slept with more than once? I'm pretty sure it doesn't change anything, since you both have slept with multiple people, now that you are committed. It's usually good to ask around the beginning of a relationship, but all this is in her past, and she has obviously stuck with you. You are only mad because you now know about it. It's silly to say you want to go have more sex with random women, rather than stay with a girl you've been with for years, it's really not as big a deal as you're making it. No, this won't drive you to cheating, because it's always a choice. It doesn't need to drive you crazy either. And when you see or think of one of those "one night stands," just think to yourself "i won." Because you are the one she wants, the one that she had sex with on many more occasions as well....
2016-03-19 01:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a road trip, give her an adventure. Numb and empty means she needs a little more interest in her life.
2006-10-29 16:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ciera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend used to live within a family with serious and more or less permanent relationships. Now, she doesn't have this any more. And she doesn't feel good about being lonely so much.
She has only you now. And even with you, her relationship is not that permanent or secure because the two of you are not married.
I'd say that trying to get her back with her mother is not the right thing to do. She is not a little girl anymore who needs her mother. She is an adult woman who needs to have a family of her own. And only having a family of her own is what will make her feel happy and fulfilled.
2006-10-29 16:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The anticipation of the fun of shacking up (sorry, it is true) could never satisfy after the deed is done and the guilt sets in. After all, she went against her parents wishes and moved in with a guy who is not marrying her and now she wakes up to the reality that every day is going to be like the previous day. She should have gone to school, started a career that keeps her away from you at least 9 hours a day so that she can demonstrate her independence from parents and you and be admired. Not talking to her mother because she knows her mother was right is exactly it. But the numbness won't go away and the emptiness won't be filled because mom will ask her to come home and that puts her in a double bind. Perhaps you should be galant and talk frankly about what is ahead given what is your present situation and state of mind. Good luck.
2006-10-29 16:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes girls feel this way, and there's nothing that can really stop it except time. Usually caused by nothing. I hope she doesn't have depression!! Did she cry? Did you hold her in your arms? I suggest spending a lot of time with her. And about what it means, some feelings can't really be described. You just know.
2006-10-29 16:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by cheesey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is pry just feeling a little off. Could be the weather, could be other things goin on in her life, maybe since you've been together and you're living together that maybe she is wishing that you'd propose and since you haven't she's wondering what is going on, but she doesn't want to end things over something like that so she's just biting back her emotions. The issue with talking to her mom, that could be the problem, do you know the circumstances behind why they haven't talked in 6 months? Try talking to her and finding out what else is going on, the worst thing you can do is push her away, draw her closer to you and make her see that you're there for her and she can talk to you no matter what.
2006-10-29 16:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two just need to bond more. Thats what my fiance and I did. Take her out to dinner more often, or just do little nice tihngs for her like leave her little notes around the apartment telling her how much she means to you. It helps A LOT. Trust me on this.
2006-10-29 16:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Damien's Mommy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay close to her when you are together. Love on her a lot. See if she will open up. Ask her how she is feeling and if there is anything you can do for her. If you think her mom would help take her to see her.
2006-10-29 16:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by CGS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's missing having other people around probably and her family. She's out of her normal environment and it gets lonely. Encouraging her to speak with her mom is a good idea. If she has brothers or sisters invite them over to dinner or something.
2006-10-29 16:40:03 · answer #11 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋