I am a foster parent that took care of my 8 year-old nephew and 2 year-old niece for almost 5 months in the foster care system. Well, I will be taking care of my niece up until december or so, I want it to be forever! My sister lost her parental rights to her children and they have two separate fathers, to make a long story short, my husband and I plan to adopt my nephew, it looks promising. Well, my niece is another story, her father is trying to regain custody of her, we love her very much and I'm afraid he might get her. What should I do or how do I not worry about this? Someone please help me!
2006-10-29 16:34:32 · 8 answers · asked by ? 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am so sorry to hear about this. I can just imagine the hell you are going through.
Unfortunately, no amount of worry will change the outcome of this situation. If indeed this child does go live with her Dad, you surely do not want to spend these precious moments with her with you in a state of despair.
Please try to put a smile on your face and make the most of today. If she goes back with her father then you will want to see her from time to time. Be civil to the father so he doesn't start being a jerk and keeping her from you.
I hope everything works out okay. It sounds like you love this little girl very, very much. She is so blessed to have an Auntie like you be there for her in her time of need, but her time of need may be over now and she may get a second chance with her real father whom I'm quite sure loves her very much, too.
Good luck and God Bless.
2006-10-29 16:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, good job taking on the kids. The father of your neice probably loves his daughter very much and although you have been raising her he does have the right to his daughter. Wether of not he gets her should not prevent him from being able to have his hand with raising her. You dont know whats going to happen and since you love her you should put her best intrest first. You will have a better chance at staying in her life if you are friends with her father. That doesnt mean you have to like him. Think of how she would feel if she met her dad later down the road and they became real close, how do you think she would feel if you would have prevented her from this sooner? Always in the court system they look at the best intrest of the child. It sounds like she is in good hands but if they leave her with you make sure she knows her dad. Its only fair. Unless he is abusive is any way. Good luck.
2006-10-29 18:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by me_laub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children's fathers have legal rights to have their children. You are FOSTERING these chidlren and don't have the right to adopt any child unless their parents sign over rights to you. The father of this little girl has not done so therefore you have NO rights as far as she is concerned. I would think that IF you truly loved this child you would be happy she has a father who loves her and wants her in his life. I can't imagine being so selfish as to only be concerned for myself.
2006-10-29 18:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The birth parent always has the right over another relative however depending on what his history looks like he won't get her because she is stable with you. I wold say that before he could get her he would have to prove a stable life. IE having a job, a home, money in a bank account
2006-10-29 16:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by mommysrock 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 04:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by yarrington 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. It sounds like you really love your neice but I just don't think there is anything you can do. It is very hard to get a parent stripped of their parental rights. He would have to be unfit and you would have to be able to prove it. Good luck and God bless!
2006-10-29 16:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call a attorney, if he is in any way unfit or can not care for her (amount of time at work, no home etc.) you maybe able to keep her. Also, you maybe able to comprimise with him, if he works full time & you stay home he may be willing to just have weekend visitations so her & her brother could stay together & she would be atken care of.. Good Luck!
2006-10-29 16:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer on your side and see what the lawyer says....if you do not like the lawyers answer, get another opinion with a other lawyer....
2006-10-29 18:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋