Everytime I try and get one it NEVER works out. A relationship would be good for me. It would help relieve some of my depression and feelings of hopelessness. I would treat a girl right too.
2006-10-29 16:32:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
too many good answers to just pick 1 so im going to put it to a vote
2006-10-31 17:53:30 · update #1
Well if your blaming god.. then he must want you to become a priest
heh heh
2006-10-29 16:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Makai 3 · 3⤊ 5⤋
I no how u feel. But I don't think it's God. Maybe u r expecting the relationship to not work out. U should talk to ur Doctor about ur depression and hopeless feeling. Maybe u just haven't met the right girl yet. What about trying online dating or joining some sports activity some where, where u might meet someone. Also I been trying this technique for my problems it sounds bit crazy but is helping me a lot. These r some links about it.
2006-10-29 16:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by xoɟ ʍous 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you had girlfriends and the job of maintaining a relationship is up to the two people involved.... dating is a testing ground for helping you to find the type of woman you will eventually marry. You are encountering different girls right now, so I hope you are making notes on the qualities you don't want in a girlfriend and what qualities you do want.
Don't focus so much on having a girlfriend that you're making yourself sick (depression/hopelessness).. no girl is the cure for those illnesses. Think of a girlfriend as someone who is better than a pen-pal but not a substitute for the time you are to be spending doing things for others and developing your personal relationship with Jesus.
2006-10-29 16:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
dont questions God even tho its really hard not to. if things keep failing for you time after time its possible that God is trying to tell you that a girlfriend is not what you need to relieve some of your depression and so on i know what you feel i have been there many times im sure he know that you would treat a girl wonderfully but onyl he knows what is best for you and obviously a girlfriend is not it at the time maybe he is giving you answers but you are not listening bc its not the ones that you want to hear try just being still and quiet with God and try to listen and understand what he wants for you and know that its the best thing God is way way way smarter than us we should listen more
2006-10-29 16:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's not that He won't allow you to have one. You just haven't found the right one yet. Please don't blame God for your relationships working out. Even if He were the one causing them to fail, He would have good reason to. God gave us ALL free will, you, me, AND those girls you're trying to date. I'm sure you will find a nice girl and the two of you will end up happy, but for the time being, you have to learn to be happy with yourself. I understand depression is hard, but having a GF isn't going to automatically cure you. I wish you the best, and my advice is to pray to God to help you with your hopelessness, and depression. That along with seeking counseling or some other form of help is usually beneficial. Good luck, and God bless!
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2006-10-29 16:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
First you need to ask God if it is His will that you have a girlfriend right now.
I'm sure you would treat a girl right, but it sounds like you have a lot of baggage of your own right now that you need to get rid of. And seriously...... GOD IS THE ANSWER. He will FILL THAT VOID in your soul. I know because I screwed up so many relationships because I thought that a guy would fill all the emptiness in my soul/heart. But all I did was put pressure on every guy I dated. I pushed them all away because of my own insecurities. But then I just cried out to Jesus and He made me whole. Now I am confident in Christ (not in myself, but CHRIST ALONE). Nobody can give you better advice than that.
2006-10-29 16:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kings Child 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God will allow you to have a girlfriend when He is ready for you to have one. I do not know your age, but I am 36 and still single. I am still waiting, but I am trusting on the Lord to provide the right person at the right time. Doing what you want when you want it instead of what God wants will land you flat on your face. I know because I have been there.
2006-10-29 17:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by ironchain15 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know...I'm going through the same thing. I just think that maybe God won't allow it to happen because if it did we would forget all about him. The Bible says he's a jealous God. I know if I got into a relationship know that I would for get about almost everything and do as my "boyfriend" pleases. I'm passionate about everything I do so I guess God knows that if i had a choice between him ( the spirit I can't see) and a boyfriend ( a person I know will always be there for me) I'd choose the boyfriend. I know it's bad but life's short and I don't want to spend the rest of it looking forward to seeing something that isn't really physically there.
2006-10-29 16:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by HONEY 2 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
God isn't to blame for you not having a girl friend. Read the book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnagie. None of the ideas are original but they've withstood the test of time. Pick the ideas you'd like to try and do it...
"You are the only problem you'll ever have and you are the only solution!"
2006-10-29 16:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by redcoat7121 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maybe because God knows a girl-friend won't "fix" you. You need to fix yourself, deal with your depression, get your life how you want it, happy and fulfilling, then when your not looking, she'll be there. Stop seeking a relationship to make you happy. Women want a man who is happy, confident, self-sufficient. not someone they have to help make better. maybe the depression is whats turning off the women, not God.
2006-10-29 16:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by zekemarie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God is probably waiting for you to get to know Him in a deeper way.Commit your desire to Him, and leave it there. I know I have this problem too and boy I tell you it ain't funny. But carry on waiting upon Him and trusting Him. Maybe you are not ready for marraige yet and the girl you are to meet will become your lovely wife. Who knows the wonderful ways of God?
2006-10-29 16:36:37 · answer #11 · answered by tracey s 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋