Guys what are your REAL thoughts about a girl who is a virgin and is saving herself for marriage? What are some sterotypes that guys have about virgin girls? Some guys think virgin girls are ugly and fat, and that they can't get anyone to sleep with them. This is FAR from the truth. I get hit on by many guys, who always tell me I'm beautiful but I'm very picky. I think saving myself is one of the smartest decisions I could make cuz it protects me emotionally and spiritualy as well as from diseases. I hate when guys talk about sexual compatibility in marriage. Marriage is not based on sex. Why don't ppl talk about compatibility in other areas? One couple who has premarital sex, may have a great sex life, but if they problems in other areas then they can't even make it to marriage. But a couple who hasn't had sex but get along great in all other areas: love, trust, honesty etc, then when they get married they can have fun exploring their bodies together:)
So guys what are your thoughts?
2006-10-29 16:23:59 · 23 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I absolutely erspect your comments. I'm fifty years old. Girls and boys can give into the joys of lust and have a good go at it. As a young man, I sought the pleasures as well. But, making a stern decision to wait, and share something that can be very exciting, personal, intimate and special takes a very special type of person. I truly admire your decision to convent this particular part of your person. It's a commitment of sorts, that says my love will receive the best of many things, one being truly of the flesh. In this age of free love, you are setting a personal standard that exceeds so much more that the modern day living. Your husband will accept you as a special person. I admire your conviction to a principle. Your path will be such a wonderful journey for you and your beloved one. God speed!
2006-10-29 16:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by stretch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Well, to start off, I am happy that you are still a virgin. I think relationships should be based on more than just sex and more on compatibility. I mean, the more passion you have for one another, the better the sex will be right? And if you are a virgin, and he is a virgin, it is the perfect gift for each other. Also like you said, you dont have to worry about diseases and get to explore each other on a better level. I would want my wife to be a virgin when we get married so I dont have to worry about the diseases I may catch or unwanted pregancies. I think it is great that you are still a virgin and there should be more girls/ladies/women like you. Sorry my response is so choppy. I just write down what ever pops into my mind and there goes my fingers on the keyboard.
Hope this helps. By the way, I am a male aged 24 and going on 25, has a great body, and still a virgin. Although I was close in losing it, but decided to hold off until marriage. I do have a stable job, shower everyday, etc. I am trying to save it for the right girl in my life. Whomever she may be.
Take care and be strong. :-)
2006-10-30 00:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Pool Player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of on the fence on this one. I respect anyone - man or woman - who is willing to make that commitment, and honestly i respect anyone who is with them and stays true to them and is willing to wait for them. You are absolutely right about the compatibility....I have seen quite a few relationships end because they found that outside of the bedroom they did not have a lot in common...and so I pat you on the back for that. It takes great character and strength to commit to something like that...so right away you know the person has 2 great qualities....and you get to know each other so much better....so much more intimately than if you spent most moments together not getting to know each other emotionally ... but physically.
However, I must say....from a personal standpoint....hmmm. Well, let me put it like this...suppose you go to the store...and buy a can of Coke. You really enjoy the Coke...and so you keep buying it....and that's all you ever buy...foregoing all the other flavours of soda. Don't you think at some point....you would wonder what Sprite tasted like? Bad analogy....but it's all I have. Hope I helped in some small way.
32. Single. Not a virgin. That's me - the man who gave you the above opinion. Keep in touch!
2006-10-30 00:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe you are a sincere and morally sound individual I think women who do this should be complimented on there way of life and that thought of saving themselves for that special someone.
I think we would see alot less teen parents if this was more of a reality for all women. I commend you for being like this I myself waited until I met the women I married and I feel great that I did so
and hey I'm a guy so it goes both ways I do believe if you meet mister right he will understand your views on this if he has any heart to love you for who you are and not to just get lucky. You are very smart indeed my wife did this and I do sense that her and I have a very emotional connection for both doing this because you know you have not soiled your bodies by sleeping around I do hope you get hit on and I hope for your sake you let the guys know how you feel about saving yourself its your life live it up the right guy will come along you'll know. Exploring after marriage is awesome and you feel really connected to that person.
I hope you stay the way you are don't give in to a guys lingo he will leave once he has had you trust me I have known some pricks in my life that have done this to their GF's. Really the guy you want will wait for you and thats that.
2006-10-30 00:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only say that i was a virgin when i got married and so was my wife -- i have no image of what a virgin should look like
as far as disease goes you need to be careful in marriage as well and there are precautions that are very successful so that should not be a major factor
to say that having sex before marriage will ensure that its based on real emotional ties is a fallacy i think
you can establish a very real well rounded relationship without marriage that does include sex --- of course the people must have a connection and make the effort to keep falling in love
2006-10-30 00:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is actually based on sex to insure reproduction and another person to be around to help that child.
BTW most people in the world do not marry based on love. Marriage is primarily a form of insurance.
But i know a few girls that are "saving" themselves and one of them is very hot. I like the idea but i hope it changes when i start going out with em.
Id rather be with a real horny virgin then a slut because after marriage would be better.
2006-10-30 00:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by RichUnclePennybags 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you have a profoundly wise approach to this, but guys are not patient.
One of the reasons you are right is that when people are compatible in many areas, they wind up also being compatible sexually.
Brace yourself. You may be alone a lot as a young adult! Until the right guy (or a very slick player indeed) comes along. Good luck.
2006-10-30 00:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am also virgin I don't exactly share your thought but I respect your view and I understand it, it makes sense, I honestly just think things will happen when they do. My goal is not to be whore, but the truth is a lot of people don't marry for love, and a lot of guys just want virgins and will call all other women sluts, but to them its ok to sleep with everyone. I guess I'm afraid of setting myself the same goal you have because I don't want to end up getting married because some smooth player came along and I was desperate to sleep with him. I think the time will come, wether I'll be married or not I don't know.
I do admire you for your decision though.
2006-10-30 00:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by c_mitu89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep saving youself for marriage, be careful because if you let too many guys know that your a virgin, they wont stop chasing you. Make sure you find the right guy, and make sure you know him really really really well. There are too many girls out there who are in a rush to lose their virginity.
2006-10-30 00:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by ernie_casarez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you going to do if you discover that you and your chosen are not compatible? get an anullment? This idea had its place when there was no reliable birth control or protection against STDs. Your idea that compatibility in all other areas should lead to sexual compatibility is fine theory, but IMOHO couple should get this area sorted out too!
If you wanna save it, mazel tov. I hope it works out for you.
2006-10-30 00:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by silentnonrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋