my last feonsay was abusive and my current is mean and mentally abussive and i treat her like gold i feel like a doormat but can't live w/o her i am head over heels in love with her but very sad with her
2006-10-29 16:18:31 · 22 answers · asked by chuck9864 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you feel like you can change her....but for once you need to find someone who will treat you as good as you treat them.
2006-10-29 16:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so clear that you are a very kind and genuine person. You are a real lover that any good girl would dream about but unfortunately you have not yet turned up with a girl of equal character as you. What is evident from your question is the fact that both these women have losses and frustrations that they have not been able to deal with yet and before that they have got into a relationship with you. Take it easy and tell her to sort out her problems if she wants to have a permanent relationship with you.
2006-10-29 16:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by S&D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite simply because you are a doormat. Psycho women will find you, use you up and throw you away. Whatever you put up with you condone so it's quite allright for her to continue. I'd say you have a thing for either being abused or trying to help /fix nutcases or you don't think you deserve the nice treatment you put out in return. Either way, you have to grow some balls or put up with it.
2006-10-29 16:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You date women who you want to spoil. A woman like that will never appreciate you if you treat her like the air you breath. You just have to make it very clear to her now that you're not taking anymore **** (even if you do love her or like her a lot).
Don't make yourself look vulnerable. Besides it seems to me that you like to treat them like you would treat a baby. You baby and spoil them and they don't give anything back.
You need a real woman that will set you straight and put them chicks back in there place. A man like you should not be treated like that you deserve to be treated like gold.
I hope that you will get tired of being treated like that and dump her. There are women out there who would praise that ground you walk on.
Do yourself a favor. Get rid of her before she takes you for all you have.
2006-10-29 16:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by HONEY 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self esteem is so low because you have been in one abusive relationship after another. You need to break this cycle, and get out of this relationship! Loving someone that is destroying you is a waste of your own life! It's better to be alone for awhile, than to be with someone who makes you miserable
2006-10-29 16:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u cannot have ur cake and eat it...mentally screwed up women give the best sex...and this is the only reason why guys like us tolerate the abuse...so do not complain...or u can find a submissive woman and be bored in bed..which is worse?u decide...i made my decision,...she has 2 court cases coming up for this month....and my male neighbours watch me and shake their heads every morning when she has sex with me the night before....i have no more cake...i have eaten all...hmmmmh yummy!
2006-10-29 16:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by PJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are Christian and it helps a lot to pray and ask for the right girl to come in your life. You are just saying you cant live without her its because you are afraid to be alone. Learn to love yourself before other people loves you. You will see it is better to love yourself first before you can gain respect to other people that you love
2006-10-29 16:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by girlie0825 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what about her mean and mentally abusive attitude makes you love her? You are not in love, you are infactuated with the idea of being in love. Abusive relationships are loveless relationships!
2006-10-29 16:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are too gentle and attract stronger personalities who like to dominate. Have respect for yourself and don't let her walk on you. There are a lot of gentle women out there who would appreciate you.
2006-10-29 16:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you're not mentally strong enough, yet, to turn around and tame them. You're the one who should be dominant, not them.
2006-10-29 17:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋