HE CONSTANTLY READING WARNING LABELS( WHICH IS GREAT) ,IF IT STATES THAT A DEFECT IN A CD PLAYER CAN GIVE OFF RADIATION HE DWELLS ON THE THOUGHT THAT HE NOW MAY HAVE BEEN INFECTED WITH RADIATION RAYS. THATS JUST ONE EXAMPLE. HE WASN'T ALWAYS PARANOID OF DEATH OR OF CATCHING SOMETHING THAT COULD CAUSE HARM TO HIMSELF. I TRY TO COMFORT HIM BUT I REALLY DON'T KNOW HOW. HE GETS SO UPSET AND EMOTIONAL OF JUST THE THOUGHT OF EITHER ONE OF US DYING. I FEEL AS IF I AM FAILING HIM AS A PARENT BECAUSE I CAN'T SEEM TO GET THROUGH TO HIM. HOW CAN I HELP MY LITTLE BOY STOP PUTTING ALL THESE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS IN HIS HEAD AND CONVIENCING HIMSELF THAT HE'S GOT IT,AND SOME TYPE OF HARM WILL COME TO HIM?
2006-10-29 16:06:15 · 15 answers · asked by snydrngl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Seems to me he has suffered a trauma in life. Were you and his father divorced recently? Is he around someone a lot who is a worrier like that? This is coming from something that he has learned somewhere for some reason. He may be developing OCD's. Perhaps you could take him to an analyst.
2006-10-29 16:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried going to a book store and finding a book about death you can go over with him, to help him understand, and overcome his fears? There has to be a few out on the market that can help you in this subject.
What about a therapist? That may even be the best thing for him. I know a lot of children go through this. And it's usually because of a traumatic experience when a loved one has passed, or he saw something he shouldn't have that made him this way. No matter what the case maybe, he needs to understand that all these things he's afraid of aren't going to hurt him, and that death is another part of life and that he shouldn't be obsessing over such things. He will miss out on a lot in his childhood if this doesn't get taken care of soon. I would definitely take him to a therapist!! Good luck to you. I hope this has helped!!
2006-10-30 00:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a scary situation because fear of death is real, it's not like when you are scared that there is a monster in the closet, death is scary and for a lot of people including myself death is my number one fear. I don't know if you are religious I am not but sometimes people find comfort in getting involved in one. one out of every one person dies, so the statistics are against us. Talk to him about death more and explain to him everything he wants to know. Maybe he will feel better. I just had that talk with my daughter shes 9, because her best friend of 3 years, Diego (her cockatiel) died for no reason, and she flipped out, I let her bury him in the backyard and we had a small ceremony where she mourned and she cried and read a poem to him, and then put a stuffed animal on his grave and she goes out every once in a while and looks at it and tears up but she understands. It was really hard as a parent to watch your child lose something that was part of them, I hope I helped
2006-10-30 00:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my my! You have an imaginative child and an avid reader! That's what you should tell him!
Dont go into lengthy discussion with him over such things and change the topic immediately.
Hand him tons and tons of great books like classics, history and mechanics etc. Get him modeling clays, and bricks and puzzles to feed his hungry brain!!! Stop all the talk with him...just put your arms around him and tell him that you wont let any harm come to him. ;) Sit with him at bedtime and read stories to him or listen to varies types of music together. Sing and dance and laugh and have fun together.
Tell him that all his worries is that he is such a brilliant child and needs more fun and adventurous reading materials. Good luck mommy. :)
2006-10-30 00:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son was very scared of nuclear war at about 8, After trying to explain how improbable it was for almost a year, one day I told him I had a plan that would save us all. That solved the problem. After that when he expressed an unreasoning fear, instead of telling him he had nothing to fear I assured him that I could protect him. He slowly grew out of his fearfulness and is now a normal adult.Try pretending you are very competent and can protect him from what he fears. Rational arguments don't work well until about 15.
2006-10-30 02:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by meg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think about death all the time. Then i was seeing a homeopathic doctor and the remedies he gave me caused those thoughts to stop. Just a suggestion. I hope your son will be ok.
2006-10-30 00:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional medical and psychiatric help immediately, he is really torturing himself and can't stop. They may consider anti-anxiety medication. My son had this, and had to take some medication. I went through it as well and had to suffer, I received no help.
2006-10-30 00:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he has irrational fears--might be best to take him to a therapist to seek some help.
2006-10-30 01:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you and your son going to a counselor together even though it might just be this period in his life where the imagination grows.
2006-10-30 00:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried being honest? Let him know that eventually everyone dies, that it is a fact of life and it's nothing to worry about.
2006-10-30 00:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by HKNorla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋