Well my dad is married to my stepmom for about 2 years now. She is deaf and for all deaf ppl they say the world is out to get them. She says she doesn't like me because of the way I am and I'm not changing myself 4 her! She got mad at my grandma cuz my grandma didn't pay attention to her when my dad was in the hospital. I just left my dad's house last nite (I called my mom) and he knew I left but I lied to him and told him I had a huge report due. So I came back to my mom's and told her what my dad told me about my stepmom hating me and my mom got a little mad but I found out more about my family than I needed to know and I can't handle it and I'm about to fall apart. So I don't think I'm going to my dad's anymore. I've had thoughts of suicide but try to get rid of them but I've been depressed since I was 9 years old (I'm 14 now). What should I do about the suicide thing, and what should I do about my dad? Should I continue going to his house?
2006-10-29 16:00:07 · 9 answers · asked by brown eyed gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
GO TO YOUR SCHOOL COUNSELOR AND TALK TO HER TOMORROW. SHE'LL HELP YOU FIND THE HELP YOU NEED. PLEASE DO THIS .
2006-10-29 16:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with your dad sharing with you about your stepmom hating you anyway? Anyway, you should still go to visit your dad because he is your dad. About the suicide, do you really think it's gonna solve everything? You are only 14. You still have your whole life to live. You still have your mom and dad. Think about those who have nobody in their life. At least now you have your mom to talk to. Remember everybody has a problem. It's just that you will have to learn to handle them. I find the idea of commit suicide very idiotic.
2006-10-29 16:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Honey suicide is not the answer. It all seems really shitty right know. Things will and can get better. Don't let your parents failures ruin your future. Your so young and have many years a head of you. Always look for the new day. time does make a diffrents. Stay strong and carry on go forward. May you be blessed with happens. Good luck
2006-10-29 16:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by mysticstargoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it depresses you that much, I would not go over there anymore and explain the situation to your father that you can't go over when his wife is there. Also talk to your mom when your feeling suicidal. Your step-mom is not worth taking your life for. Think of your mom and your friends. You might not think it but people will miss you when you are gone. Just talk to someone it doesn't help to keep all those feelings bottled up. Believe me, if it wasn't for my friends I would not be here today. I thank God everyday for them.
2006-10-29 16:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never stop seeing your parents. im 14 and my dad died we were having family problems at the time. we all have parental problems and not everyone in the world will like us. i know you wont get your dad without your step-mum but when the time comes you'll be glad you had the time for him. ive wanted to commit suicide but ive ended up talking to people who convinced me we have more to live for because we do. ino how it feels to find out more than we want to know (a blue box and a adoption agency made damn sure of that) but there is always something there to help you. a friend. or spend time talking to your dad about it
2006-10-29 16:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by L-M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know who has legal custody of you, but if you dad does not and you are going to visit him, you could skip visits sometimes and just stay away a while. This thing is not worth committing suicide. Please stop worrying about everyone and take care of yourself. Get a good education, make friends, plan for the future. If your family is dysfunctional, it doesn't mean you have to be. It is not selfish for you to think of yourself first. It is your life to live and you can make it fine if you stop trying to carry the burden of the world upon your shoulders. They are adults and they made their decisions. Take care of yourself!!
2006-10-29 16:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something you need to talk over with mom... sit down and tell her ALL the things going thru your head and all the stuff you are feeling... it is her job to help you in times of trouble... if you feel you can not talk to mom, maybe a friends mom or some one at school you can trust, like a teacher or councler... DO NOT keep putting ur feelings aside for the adults... YOU go and talk to whom ever you feel you can trust and get help...thoughts of suicide are dangerous !!!! and depression is NOT a game............. GET HELP NOW !!!!!!!! write a letter to mom saying all those things if you feel you just cant say out loud what you need to say... God bless
2006-10-29 16:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was u i would join school and study else where..it may b difficult in beginning but later u will feel happy when u see all r doing good..u could go for boarding school..and its not at all bad idea u could make friends who suffer the same..well..suicide is meant to b for cowards..survivors deal with it..i really mean it..if u suicide wat will u achieve..so achieve something..its just one life and god loves u more than ur parents or anyone else do
2006-10-29 16:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy Maklina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being part of a step family is hard . It may also be hard for the new parent. They need to adjust to having grown step-kids, and sometimes they don't know how to deal with the new life they have. At times, the step-parent may be overly eager to help you or fix problems. You are affected by this change, that is normal. But please never blame your self, or take it out on your self. This will only cause you more pain and anguish. Your father and mother loves you, they would not want to lose you. Your father just needs you to understand and have patience with him. Even though you do not get along with your step-mom, go there to see your dad. Try making appointments to spend quality time alone with him. Explain to him that you need his love to, and in order to keep peace, you need to be with him alone. It is not to offend the step-parent, but your father is also responsible to take care of you. Because your step -parent is hearing impared, she made be overly sensitive, and need more attention. This is understandable as well. We must all compromise in order to have a peaceful home, or homes. YES, it takes real effort, but in the long run it will work out. It is gonna take time for you to trust your step-parent, and vice-versa. One thing that I hope you don't mind me saying, is please don't tattle - tell about one parent to the other parent. This will only cause you more pain and it will trigger more problems for you and them. Talk to each one about what you are feeling concerning them personally, in a respectful way. Unless it is truly a serious matter, then tell them. You need to talk to a school counselor about the suicide feelings. And please remember that you are of value, even if others might not show it to you , or agree. God loves you, and he will listen to you, talk to him in prayer. Pour out your heart to him, you will find comfort in him. Pour out your heart to your father, and I hope he listens to you.
2006-10-29 16:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋