My sister in law asked me what do?

Question

I'm a stay at home mom, what do I do? Is she crazy? I clean kitchens, throw up, poop, pee,milk,potty training, I care for the children,clean the spoiled milk droppings and smell out of my car, pay bills, lug two kids around with a heaving a$$ double stroller, I go to physical therapy for my daughter's neck, I do a thousand things a day, and I have no idea why she asked me what do I do! She must be on crack, how do I give her a good response instead of what do you mean, I'm a mom

She could come over, but it's hard to have hospitally with two small kids. She is a maid, so, I dunno. It's always strange with her around. I really suck at girl talk so I dunno what to say. I only know wife and mom talk

Answer 1

hey sweety,
well id like to say first that you know how I feel about my inlaws so we can relate. I find it ridiculous that stay at home moms seem to get a lack of respect when they have the hardest and most demanding, challenging job of all. Maybe she is jealous because she doesnt get to spend as much time with her kids or maybe she is just saying this to get to you, I would simply tell her that you do more in one day then she probably does in a week. A lot of people dont realize how stretched you are mentally and physically, when it comes to being home with your kids all the time, its a wonderful experience none the less to watch your children grow up and to be able to have more time to spend with your family. But theres so much hard work involved. This kind of work is a 24 hour seven day a week job that keeps you constantly on your toes. There are no real breaks like you get when having a job outside of home. Not to mention the added stress of daily cooking, cleaning up messes constantly, all the running you have to do, its hard to balance all this stuff and yet you still find the time to play and teach your children to help them grow up in a healthy environment of love and protection, you havent got a minute for yourself until they fall asleep lol... Im a stay at home mom so I feel your pain, I guess they dont know what its like until they have experienced it themselves but if your in laws are anything like mine it wont matter what you tell them they will still find a way to put you down for something. Dont let them get you so downhearted, hold your head up high because you know you are a wonderful mom, who is willing to sacrafice more for your children, I have nothing against working moms by the way, but until you actually experience staying at home all the time with your children, you cant honestly say you know what a challenge it is. They have no right to say this to you, I bet they couldnt last a week in your shoes.
Just know that you are doing a wonderful job and doing something that many parents dream about.... I have both worked and supported my family and stayed at home with my kids and let me tell ya, staying at home is far harder than any job I have ever had to do ;)

Answer 2

I'm a stay at home mom too and I here that all the time. It drives me crazy. Now I can say that I take a nap every once in a while because my son's at school but before no way. I saw on the morning news one day that if stay at home moms got paid for everything that they do from the house cleaning to taking care of the kids they would be averaging over $100,000 a year in income. So just let her know what it is you do and if she still thinks that it's such an easy job then tell her to get her butt to your house and for 24 hrs she does your job. Leave a list of everything that you have to do that day and then you go and relax. Gurantee she'll never ask again. Good Luck and God Bless the Stay at home mommies out there!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

I dont think you should give her any explanation. You know what you do and being that I am a stay at home mom too its crazy how people assume that its irrational for you to be irritated that they assume you sit and do nothing all day or sit and eat bon bons while watching a soap opera. We know that without you being home your home would not run as peaceful as it does while a working woman has to balance both home and work which can be exhausting. I give you all that you deserve if I could but you know deep inside that your job as a stay at home mom is what is best for your children, yourself and your husband. You are Amazing. Just think what your kids get from this. Not all children are given the time to spend with their moms or even know that their moms are their for them. Some children have to worry about coming into the care of another person while their moms are out trying to earn a living. I am not downing working moms because each side has a positive and negatives but we in the long run have to decide on whats best for our family.

Answer 4

Tell her what you just told us and then remind her that you don't get a paycheck at the end of the week. Also throw in that you don't have set hours and you don't get off of work at 5 p.m. Being a mom is a 24/7 job that no one seems to appreciate. I know how you feel and what you do. I take care of 4.

Answer 5

First of all...take a deep breath! Is your sister in law a mom? It doesn't sound like it! Give your jobs titles: Appointment Administrator; Head Chef and Menu Planner; Laundress!; Nurse; Taxi Driver; Teacher; etc... If she doesn't have small children she might not really understand what all and how much is involved. Being a good mom is an extremely important job!

Answer 6

Tell her what you just told us. I am a stay at home Mom plus house wife , plus I help take of my parents who are in their 60;s who own their own business and are diabetic, as well as not in the best shape my mom has CMT which is a diease in which she will eventuatluly be disabled (Choal Marie Tooth) which is a debaliating diease. My hsuband understands and helps me take up the slack. He works for my parents and we live with them. He is the Step parent of my child and understands that my job is not any set hours. If she wants to take over for a day she can see just what you do and maybe she want ask what you do!!! It is a lot of hard work with a lot of rewards.. Something money can't buy.

Answer 7

Don't let it stress you out. Some people have no idea what its like to be a stay at home mum. When she has kids and tries to juggle working and them she will see what a mother does.

Next time she asks just tell her you sit and watch the soapies all day and the fairies clean, cook and care for your kids.

Answer 8

ow, I would be fureous!! I too stay at home & can not find enough time in the day to get everything done. I would explain you choose to stay @ home & care for your children (if you worked you would be paying someone to do this) you also clean constantly when you are at home as soon as it is cleasn something is distroyed, you cook, go to the doctor apt. Acctually I think I would ask her if she really wants to kno to come over & see! How rude!

Answer 9

I too am a stay at home mom and I homeschool my four children... yet all the time I'm asked why I don't work.... I just simply reply I do, everyday, only no one can afford what I'm truly worth so I do it all for love of my family. See what she has to say then.

Answer 10

I am a stay at home mom to make sure my child is well taken care of and get the best of the younger years if I could do it I would