Me and some girlfriends were at a bar, and here walks in a common man, ok im an attractive female, im not being conceited but i have recieved many compliments for it and this man walks right next me without catching a glimpse. My friends and I try to make a scene which usually helps with the attention but nothing, i dont know what to do. I heard he has just moved to the area and comes to the bar regularly, I dont know if im being silly, but i have never walked up to a man they have always come to me, how should i handle this, and why cant i get over my fear.
2006-10-29 15:51:40 · 12 answers · asked by watermelonlvr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me like you want him to notice you,,,,don't try so hard. send him a drink, or ignore him like hes not there....but if u really want his attenion, pass out on him,
2006-10-29 15:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by gangsterfied_holly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that not all men are attarcted to you (generally speaking). Some times men don't want that "sexy chick" at the bar. Just because a man does not look at you or pay attention to you doesn't mean that you are not pretty. You seem like you have confidense, what I would do is just go up to him, what have you got to lose? nothing! What's the worst that could happen? he says no. Come on, you should not conclude your confidense to a guy you "saw" at the bar. Remember that you are a woman first, not a sex object, You are beautiful, confident and you don't need to make a scene with your friend to get his attention. If he doesn't pay attention to you, its not a big deal. You can't make every guy like you.
-j
2006-10-30 00:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by jloren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like a girl that is hard to get! Hence the old song..."Why must I be like that, why must I chase the cat..." Chase being the keyword in that sentence. If you can't chase then you move on. If you would have acted like you didn't want anything you might've had a better chance! Get noticed then play hard to get! As far as the whole being silly...yeah, this ain't the 20's! If you want something, walk up and get it. You either have to play hard to get or go get it, but play the middle and you're going home with the girlfriends.....alone!
2006-10-29 23:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by sixfoot8bkr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he must be a well rounded guy because most good men are going to think you are just pain inmature for making a scene. The first thing you need to do is grow up and stop trying so hard! OBVIOUSLY he's not interrested I'd give up on him and move on to somone with your I Q level! No offence girl but i've seen your type!
2006-10-30 00:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and relax every time you are in the bar:sit somewhere he cant see you but you can see him...believe me you will catch his attention since it looks like his the kind of guy that's quiet but smart as studying people from a distance is actually accurate.Then from the blues pop up,move close and create a rupor, you can do this with friends but with precaution as this has a probability of messing up your chance with him ie:he might actually fall for your friend and not you.........
2006-10-30 00:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just shy. He could be plotting how he's going to approach you. Or MAYBE he's just not interested in you. With making a scene in the bar he could think that you're just seeking attention. If it really bugs you that much that he ignored you then swallow your pride and go up to him and start a conversation.
2006-10-29 23:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he actually doesn't find you attractive *GASP!!* I mean, wow is it possible that out of the whole entire male population of the world, one guy could find you unattractive?! Shame on him!! SHAME ON HIM!! I mean you must be the hottest thing ever if guys have complimented you before.
Maybe he is gay..or he doesn't like conceited chicks that try too hard to vie for his attention......just a thought...
2006-10-30 00:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over yourself. You seem to have a problem with wanting to be the center of attention. Maybe the guy is gay. Maybe he doesn't like girls like you. Either way, get over it.
2006-10-29 23:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is married.Maybe he is gay.Maybe he doesnt want to meet anyone at this time. Maybe he is there to meet someone else. Maybe you should wait for someone to approach you.
2006-10-29 23:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he could be in a serious relationship or he could be gay. If he's not either, then just go and talk to him.
2006-10-29 23:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋