He says he only wants to spend time with me and not my family. Says my family always looks at him wierd bec he is Mexican (I'm white), but my fam is not prejudice, I think he is making this up as an excuse or just doesn't want to hang w/everyone...we have been togaether for 5 plus years...do not live togeather though...there have been the usual ups and downs of a family, fights etc but my family is accepting and welcoming to him. He will come over for a little while but then he leaves. Sometimes he says he will come and ends up not. I know he loves me but I don't get him. He also has a big family his own self and is like the caretaker of the whole family, they are all adults but he is the responsible one.Do you think this is normal or acceptable..what would you do?
2006-10-29 15:51:14 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No he does not invite me to his family (holiday) functions, bec one time when we frst met I got mad at him bec everyone was speaking Spanish & he was not including me or translating anything for me. They all Speak English except parents. I am friendly with all of his family though.
2006-10-29 17:11:39 · update #1
No he does not invite me to his family (holiday) functions, bec one time when we frst met I got mad at him bec everyone was speaking Spanish & he was not including me or translating anything for me. They all Speak English except parents. I am friendly with all of his family though. And he says when we get married we will have our own celebrations. I just feel lonely at holiday times seeing everyone else with their bf/gf and feeling like I am missing out.
2006-10-29 17:13:14 · update #2
His family situation, not ok, but seems to be a trend in families these days.
The relationship with your family, quite normal because the relationship is interracial. I hate the fact that this is so, but I have had boyfriends who are white, hispanic and black. The hispanic never met my family, but the black one did. He liked my family and they loved him, but because it was interracial and the usual prejudiced comments (not from my family, but from the families of exs) he was uncomfortable spending time with them.
2006-10-29 15:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Shel K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he invite you to be with his famiy on the days he doesn't want to be with yours? After five years, things aren't going to change all that much, so now you have to decide if you can live with the way things are. Maybe he just doesn't want to be around your family, but if you marry, have kids, then what would you do on holidays?
2006-10-30 00:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal and I wouldn't consider it acceptable behavior either. I would say if he doesn't want to participate in that part of your life then he shouldn't participate in it at all.
2006-10-29 23:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋