Talking to my ex tonight she said she would be upset if there was someone else because we wouldn't be the same anymore. We still do the same things we did when we were together. Just don't say we are in a relationship anymore. I don't understand why she is like that. She broke up with me. So why would she find it so hard that I am with someone else. She is not interested in anyone. Trust me I know. I just don't see her point to having to know what I do all the time and who I am with. Why would she need to know everything? She just is so confusing with the things she says, and I really think I should just end all contact.
2006-10-29 15:48:57 · 20 answers · asked by john 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she is holding onto you till someone better comes along. I would keep your options open and dont only date her.
2006-10-29 15:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having tried to "be friends" with my ex, I can say this: it sucked. Take a break, maybe a few months, get your OWN lives in order, and then if you want to be friends do it. Or just make a clean break. It sounds like she wanted to break up, but still have alll of the intimacy and monogamy of a relationship. Well, you can't have both :)
Take some time apart, live YOUR life for awhile, and then see where the friendship stands.
2006-10-29 23:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say maybe she still likes you, and after the breakup she realized that. Or, maybe she is keeping you at bay. Breaking up to alleviate the responsibility of a relationship and to be free to shop around, but still keeping you close so in case nothing else works, she can always fall back. And if you have someone else, she loses that possiblity. But then you should ask her. People are weird, and you can't quite read their minds.
2006-10-29 23:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by bobo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump the Bitc* she is just using you man! She is getting all of benefits and giving nothing. How many boy friends does she have? And don't be stupid and say none. You are a real idiot you know that? You deserve what you get. She would not find it hard to deal with if yo found someone else, she would miss the perks. The dinners, the gifts, the movies. WHo pays for her car when it breaks? You are really stupid. I am ashamed of you man! Come on, grow a pair! (Mumble, spit and curse.)
2006-10-29 23:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she doesn't want you (since she left you)...but doesn't want anyone else to have you either! It's control...and you should put a stop to it NOW. Unless the two of you want to rebuild the relationship and try again...it would be best to just end it once and for all and let her know you're not putting your life on hold just because she doesn't want you with anyone else
2006-10-29 23:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually i been in this situation before, and hope this can help. years ago, when i broke up with my ex, we remain as "friends", just like you, we do the things just like when we were as couple. but is not easy to be only friends. in my heart i know that i can no longer be with him because of the incompability, we were just not meant to be. but on the other hand, i wish to be with him, in his life. is really selfish thinking, after a while in had come to my sense that if this will to carry on, is pointless, it only hurt both of us. put an end to all this, and find someone better. good luck.
2006-10-30 00:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by Princess is here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she may be extremely attached to you, but breaking it off is a good choice especially if you don't like her anymore. Just start slow by expressing your choice of dating other people and YOUR independence from the past relationship. Then if she persists to control everything then let her go.
2006-10-29 23:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an ex.Go live your own life and move on from from this.Even thou she broke it off with you,she still thinks she owns\has rights with you.When she sees you with someone else she'll get the hint.Stop making yourself available.Or has she been a friend with benefits and now you want to cut it off?
2006-10-29 23:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE PROBLEM IS THAT YOU AND YOUR EX ARE STILL TOGETHER BUT NOT AS A COUPLE AND THAT MAY
BE CONFUSING FOR EVERYONE, IF IT OVER THEN
YOU NEED TO STOP ALL CONTACT WITH HER, OTHER
WISE THIS WILL CONTINUE TO BE A ISSUES , SO
END IT ONCE AND FOR ALL, THAT WHAT EX ARE THEY
PAST LOVE. TIME TO MOVE ON TO THE PRESENT.
2006-10-29 23:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she broke up with you, I don't know why she feels she can demand anything from you. You should discuss it with her and tell her you are moving on. However, you are still seeing her to, so maybe you both want to get back together?
2006-10-29 23:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋