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Two months ago, I met a guy at a party. We had a great first date a week after we met. Towards the end of our date, he asked if we were going to get together again. I said maybe because I didn't want to put myself out there. I think he was confused by that comment because he called me when he got home that night to ask if we were going out again. I said, "Sure, why do you ask?" He said he wasn't sure because I said "maybe".

We had a second date planned for last week but at the last minute I had to cancel it because of my family. I think he understood but was disappointed. We made plans for Thanksgiving weekend and he made a comment, "Wow, that's a long time to wait to see you."

We like each other but I'm so busy! Seriously, I don't want him to lose interest. I called him tonight to make a date for this Friday and he wants me to find something for us to do. How can I let this guy know that I'm still interested?

2006-10-29 15:40:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

I'm posting this again because I didn't mention that I am super afraid of getting hurt again. I know that sounds cliche but it's true. I've been in so many horrible relationships where guys have cheated, lied and were just downright mean. Outside of my father, I've never had a guy this genuine before in my life and I'm 28 (so is he). On some level, I know that he's not trying to run game and is genuinely interested. But my old instincts constantly creep up - hence the "maybe" comment and probably the reason behind me cancelling the last date.

2006-10-29 15:48:11 · update #1

7 answers

I hate to say it, but you can't fall in love unless you're willing to risk skinning your knees in the process. It's perfectly understandable to be somewhat guarded, but you can't build a wall with no doors and expect someone to figure out how to get in (wow, could I talk in more dorky metaphors?). If you like this guy, he needs to know it. One thing we women tend to forget about guys is that no matter how intelligent they are, they're still more dense than we are. They don't work well with subtlety and hints. They need to be told what you're REALLY feeling or they'll be clueless. My advice is to tell him that you really like him and want to see where things head with him, but that you've been hurt in the past and don't want to rush things. He'll appreciate the honesty, and he won't be stuck having to guess how you feel about him. Think about it- while you're busy being busy and guarded, he's busy wondering if you're just stringing him along. Good luck!

2006-10-30 08:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0 0

You have to make time for this relationship to work. It can work I promise, but you have to work extra hard, and sacrifice a bit more than others, otherwise you maybe better off being friends. Being seriously busy is such a cop-out. I work long hard hours, so do many other people. And the very little time I have to myself, I spend with my partner, and I try to make it as worthwile as possible. Because I know that during the day when i'm at work, I'm missing her so much, and I'd do anything to see her. best of luck

2006-10-29 15:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by exaluva 3 · 0 0

You can talk on the phone before your due date,

2006-10-29 15:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by 520 4 · 0 0

be upfront and honest, you shouldn't have to live in each others pockets all the time any way

2006-10-29 15:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1 0

THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN DO.BUT ASSURE HIM
WHEN YOU TALK TO HIM THAT YOU ARE REALLY LOOKING
FOR THE DATE FOR THIS FRIDAY.

2006-10-29 15:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0 0

You already have so don't over do it!

2006-10-29 15:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

tell him..

2006-10-29 15:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bear 3 · 0 0

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