I am 22, my parents were seperated when i was 6. My mum remarried and never seemed to have time for us, i don't have the mother daughter type of relationship which reall upsets me, especially now i'm engaged it is really hard seeing my friends with there mums. I know she loves me but never seems to have any time to just call me to see how i am.
i was very close to my nan but even now that seems to have gone.
Friends= i always have lots of friends but the cycle changes and i lose contact with them.
i am sad about my mum, because we aren't close iu can not talk to her about it at all. i just don't know what i should do, its hard to feel like you don't have a mum.
One thing i know for sure, i will be so so close to my own children!
Can i get over the pain? Or will it always stay?
Can anyone give me advise?
2006-10-29 15:20:50 · 6 answers · asked by Serey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is good to know that you will remember how you feel. Most people will naturally treat their own children the same. This is how the cycle of abuse gets it's power. Making sure you don't treat your children the same will be the best way to deal with your pain. For that, you will be rewarded tenfold for your grief.
2006-10-29 15:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one teaches us how to be Mothers. Why not contact your Mum once a week, or fortnight - get the ball rolling. You can become closer that way. We all lose touch with good friends, but they are only a text, email, phone call away. Try to keep in touch more.
2006-10-29 23:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter and have tried to be close to her but she does not want to be close so I am just going to let her do her thing from now on. It hurts when someone that you love does not love you! I hope your children will always love you-you can love them a lot but that is no guarantee that they will love you! Just do the best that you can!
2006-10-29 23:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , you can absolutely be a better parent, and you must change the cycle...and you are allready on your way to being a different kind of mother, because you can see the problem and you want to change it..Good Luck
2006-10-29 23:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iunderstand how you feel. You can not change others. Except how things are "IT IS WHAT IS IS" !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Remember people lives take many turn and different roads. This does not make thing right between you and your mother, but helps to just accept the way she is.
2006-10-29 23:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you have said tell to yur mom if you can't send her a mail but tell her coz may be she thinks that you are close to her but not tell her this and surely she'll understand
2006-10-29 23:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by TIMEPASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋