As some of you may recall, I recently had a bad experience. I was the MOH in a wedding and ended up giving the bride a pedicure, waited on her and gave her a foot massage at the end of the night.
Taking everyone's advice, I went over to her house recently and confronted her about it. She got very upset and accused me of not being a good friend. I tried to apologize but she would not accept. I felt awful. She is a very good friend. Not knowing what to do, I gave her another foot massage. She stopped crying and became demanding.
Needless to say she bossed me around for the next couple of hours telling me I needed to make things up to her. i did her laundry and cleaned her bathroom. Everyone here is going to think I have no spine, but I felt guilty. I hate seeing people upset and I felt I owed her for making her upset about the wedding.
2006-10-29 15:07:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I seriously hope this is a joke, if not, you are the biggest push over ever! Now get over here and clean my bathrooms!
2006-10-29 15:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Flower Girl 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good lord! You're right, I'm wondering where your spine is, girl. This person is a manipulative b***h, is NOT a good friend, and obviously thinks you are her inferior. If you do have a spine somewhere, tell this person to kiss your patootie. You didn't make this nasty little Bridezilla upset - you allowed her to use you as a scratching post. Dump the guilt - guilt is the most useless emotion ever invented. She didn't make you do her flipping housework - you LET HER make you.
Don't confront her again. Pretend she doesn't exist. She will continue to suck your blood forever if you don't get rid of her. Do you really think her behavior is how a friend treats a friend? Kick the little beast to the curb - she doesn't deserve your friendship.
2006-10-29 23:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Push back. If you want to continue associating with this person, you need to understand that she's manipulative and demanding. You need to decide when to say "no". I'm good-natured myself and have had a few friends who decided to take advantage of that (generally with class work). When I see that happening, I establish some boundaries and start saying, "No, I really don't have time to help with that right now." Or, "I would really rather do something else." What you're shooting for is polite but firm.
The ball is then in your friend's court. If she can't take a polite refusal without hitting the roof or deciding she can't be your friend, then her friendship isn't worth much. Ditto if she dictates that you "owe" her those things. Stick to your guns and if she demands you leave, tell her, "I'm sorry you feel that way." Then walk away.
My point is that you don't need to ditch the friendship, but you do need to decide on what terms you want to continue. If you don't want to be a slave, you need to find out if your friend values your friendship enough to accept that. But if all she wants is a slave, she's not your friend in any case and it's time to move on.
2006-10-29 23:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by jaywalk57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if this isnt a bad joke, I would let the "friend" go. She is aware of her ability to manipulate your feelings and is taking FULL advantage of it. I have NEVER known a bridesmaid to go as "above and beyond" as you described.... but to continue doing it for weeks after the fact?
DO NOT confront her anymore.... if she values your friendship she will come to YOU with an apology! If she doesnt, count yourself lucky and find yourself some more worthwhile friends.
You cant please everyone, so the best you can do is to please yourself (obviously I dont mean at others expense, but dont become ANYONE's doormat)
2006-10-29 23:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has serious issues! She is using your guilt to her advantage! A real friend would have accepted your apology! You need a new friend and no she is not a really good friend to you.
2006-10-30 09:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend knows what buttons to push to get you to do her bidding. She is a selfish manipulative brat. Stop calling her for a long period of time and see what kind of friend she really is!!
Dear Abby, or Ann Landers, once said: "Nobody can take advantage of you unless you let them."
2006-10-29 23:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
why dont you come over and rake my leaves you upset me by having to read this by the way you should paint the outside of my house too since you are making me bring you over man am i upset now all this from reading this well you can shine all my boots to while i am gone and i guess we can call it forgotten
2006-10-29 23:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by sean b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Put a stop to letting her take advantage of you like that-she is so spoiled!
2006-10-29 23:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont like your tone. It hurts my feelings......oh yeah, I have ton of housework that needs to be done. LOL
2006-10-30 00:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just grow up, this has nothing to do with weddings and we don't want to hear it.
2006-10-30 01:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋