My bf's birthday is next week and I want to surprise him with a threesome. He works with a girl who has expressed an interest to me. His fantasy has always been to have me go down on another girl while he has sex with me. I am really nervous as I have never been with another girl. Does anyone have advice?
2006-10-29 14:59:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once a person has a 3some, it opens the doors for other 3somes, as men like them. If he already has had 3ways, then he's on the road now. If you want this type of relationship, then you are doing the right thing in arranging his birthday "gift".
Sex with others, without you, will follow.
The main way women keep men is by convincing them that they MUST be monogamous or their lives will be ruined; 3ways are a green light for open relationships.
2006-10-29 15:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most people will tell you swinging will destroy your relationship, and you should only have a threesome with strangers. I say everyone is different, and what works for you, doesn't necessarily work for me.
So you need to work out what works for you! Maybe that's swinging and threesomes, maybe it's monogamy and this should stay in the region of fantasy. There is no right answer.
If you want to explore further, don't force anything. Start by talking to him about it. Talk about your fantasies and what the two of you want - integrate that into your sex life so you are imagining what might happen as you feel the pleasure together.
What would your boundries be? Is he allowed to kiss and touch her? Or would you prefer he watched the two of you, and played with you alone? I imagine that you wouldn't want him to have penetrative sex with her (the first time at least), but what about oral sex? kissing? Is there anything you should make clear is off the table? (Remember, you can always put things back on the table later!)
Maybe the three of you could meet up somewhere for drinks and chat. See how you feel and if you are attracted to her. Try flirting and talking about sex with her and see if you like it.
You could go dancing (gay clubs are best) and try dancing with her and even kissing her in a public place - that way you know it can only go so far, and you might be able to relax more.
You could invite her back to your for dinner and drinks. A few drinks would certainly help relax you all! (But not too much, or it's just no fun). Don't expect a threesome to happen right away - chat and get comfortable first.
Don't rush it - you might want to stick at kissing for a while. It might help if you two girls concentrated on eachother at first, while he watched.
I hope you make the right decision for you. In truth, society is always telling us that threesomes and swinging are BAD and will RUIN your relationship. It can be incredibly liberating to realise how wrong society can be! I've been a swinger for years, and it has enriched my relationship and made us closer to each other.
Many people think swinging will lead to infidelity - in truth, the opposite is true. Why would my partner cheat on me, when he gets to have sex with other women already?
As long as boundries are clear, and everyone is comfortable, this could be something that brings the two of you closer together. I doubt it will be the best sex you've ever had (sex with the person you love will always be the best) but it could certainly give you some incredibly erotic memories that will fuel your sex life for years!
I hope you have fun, whatever you decide.
2006-11-02 01:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My questions to you:
1) Do you want to be with another girl (it sounds like you are bi-curious).
2) Are you any more attracted sexually to a girl you really don't know than you are to a guy you don't know?
I ask this because I know that although my wife and I are swingers she has to pick who she wants to have sex with. She has to have chemistry with them, man or woman. She'd be offended if I was so bold as to just bring home some guy or girl for her to "do".
I think you and your b-friend better think this through a bit more before you wade into this pool. Set down ground rules about what is okay and what isn't. Agree on the person (in my opinion including a coworker is bad news. You don't crap where you eat).
As far as advice about being with another girl... when she comes along you'll know who she is and you'll have a great time. Just don't force the matter or it'll be a disaster.
2006-11-02 08:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have nothing against threesomes, but every one involved HAS to be comfortable with it. If you're nervous going in to it, it won't go well.
2006-10-29 15:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blind fold him and don't tell him the other girl is there. See how long you can keep the blind fold on him without him knowing there are two girls there, and how far both of you can go before he realizes. Then pick it up and...
2006-10-31 01:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to do a threesome with someone you are relly connected to chances are it will probably not be easy to not get jealous, If its something you want to try ,try it with people you trust but aren't in a relationship with
2006-10-29 15:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you don't want to don't because it can ruin your relationship cos he might want to go further with the other girl and 9 times out of ten the guy will get board and try something else cos that's Wat happend to me and it feels sooo horrible you can still do it just make a commitment that that's as far it will go i hope he has a happy birthday
2006-10-29 15:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by danielle 87 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Heres my advice plain and simple. make sure everyone is happy.
2006-10-29 15:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by lady_wolf_sushi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... if your interested in the sex go for it.. but if its really not your thing i wouldnt push yourself to do it.. i don't think your boyfriend would be to dissapointed..
2006-10-29 15:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by yangkai90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything you might regret later. Cos what if ur boyfriend enjoys it so much....that he starts flings with that other chik behind ur back? what will u do then?
2006-10-29 15:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by *LuckyStar* 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋