We broke up because our personalities aren't all that compatable and we don't know if we could live with each other for years and years. We only had sex one time, right after we broke up??? hello? I know it was stupid and so does he, but what happened happened. So if I am pregnant, what is the best thing to do? I don't know if I can handle being a single mother. I have a decent job, but is it better to marry him and risk being unhappy, or is it better to just have the baby and be a single mom and have all the struggles with that, yet be free?
2006-10-29 14:54:37 · 13 answers · asked by free:eli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HEllo! If you were having doubts before,A baby will not fix things! If he is a real man, he will be around for you and the baby no matter what! stay single , go to school for free, and make a good life for the two of you. You can make it, I did!
2006-10-29 14:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by gobengal1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definitely do NOT marry someone you don't want to spend your life with! duh!!
I broke up with my ex and found out shortly after that I was pregnant... we got back together thinking that it would be best if we could try and work things out, but it did not get any better and I ended up leaving for good when I was 4 months along. Yes I had that baby all on my own (with help & support from my friends & family) and he is now 6 and I am still single (a couple relationships in the meantime, but they didn't last) and we are doing just fine. Yes there has been a lot of struggle, parenting is hard enough with a partner, let alone having to do it all by yourself, but it can be done.
I also just have to say, regardless of the relationship, you should not rule out the possibility of abortion if you don't feel you are ready/able to have a child. I have experience with this too... when my son was about a year old I got pregnant again with my bf at the time (birth control failed) and we agreed that our relationship, and both our lives individually, were too unstable to responsibly bring another child into the world, so we decided to terminate. It was a difficult decision and a difficult experience to go through, but I believe it was the right choice in that situation and I have never regretted it. Nor do I have any regrets about the child I did choose to have on my own... just look at your situation realistically, you are the only one who can decide the right answer for you.
2006-10-29 23:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him first. Bring up abortions if you arent against it and see what he says. Next really consider why you guys called off the engagement in the first place. If its because of a fight, work it out. If things can be tried again then try. Only marry someone that you want to. The divorce will hurt you and (more) the child in the end!
2006-10-29 23:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by lccutie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you want your baby growing up knowing mummy and daddy hate each other? you can handle being a single mum and you have a job there is no reason why you would be unhappy. there are men out there doing the same thing.just take care of bubby. just make sure you get child support from him. be independant woman,all the power to you. good luck and have fun.
2006-10-29 22:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bless your heart . I got pregnant the 1st I ever had sex ! I did marry him and was not happy at all . He was abusive and wouldn't keep a job , I stayed with him believe it or not for 8 1/2 yrs. , had a second child and then finally left .
I was miserable , so there you go !
What do you think now ?
2006-10-29 23:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you don't get along why would you even wanna marry him.That would be kind of stupid. But that's a choice you would to make in your life. Ya Never know sometimes Babie's can change people
2006-10-29 22:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Rick B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Should you marry him now that your pregnant??
I think you know the answer to that - NO.
Sit down and write the Pros' and Con's of having a baby right now.
I wish you well!!
2006-10-29 23:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by bbrcss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you marry him JUST for the baby, then, you will live a miserable life, and end up in a divorce, and during your miserable life you innocent baby will be going through it also. Is that how you really want to live? NOT ME
2006-10-29 23:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by JANET 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would prefer being free because just being married does not mean there will not be struggles.
2006-10-29 22:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just have your baby... dont even think about marrying him!!!
2006-10-29 22:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by ==> 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋