that your sister's bf was cheating on her? There are signs everywhere. She found an opened wrapper to a brand of condoms they never use hidden under their bed. It's not like it fell and landed under the edge, it was an arm's length under the bed. She asked her bf about it, he said he blew it up and popped it. The bf and the "floozy" go to the store which is about 2 minutes from here, and they stay gone for at least an hour. My mom and I have both tried to explain to her that she needs to talk about it with them, but anytime she tried they get defensive. What else do you all think can be done? Should I stay out of it and let her wreck her own life, or keep trying to convince her there's a problem?
2006-10-29 14:48:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She knows deep down but if she admit it then she has to do something about it. When she has had enough she will make changes. If you keep trying to get her to see what going on you may lose her. Love her and be there for her without the told yous when she needs you
2006-10-29 14:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you love your sister. You can choose to stay or get lost. I would stay. Your sister has closed her mind to any fault of her boy friend. You can help in getting her to see reality. People do not buy Condoms to blow and pop. They are meant for one purpose and that is it. You may have to give her proof. Like show her when he is with another Girl.
2006-10-29 22:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to convince her of anything, just say this is what I know and tell her it is her life and she must be the one to decide what to do with what you tell her. She may know much more than you think about the situation. I know you feel like you should do something but it rarely ever works.
2006-10-29 22:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women know when they are being cheated on. Until she is ready to deal with this issue your words will fall on deaf ears. Nonetheless she is your sister and when my bf hit on both of my sisters they let me know-I believed them but i didnt leave him. When i did break up with him I appreciated them being there and NOT judging me. Nobody wants to hear how dumb they were-you already know this. Tell her once about everything you know but dont tell her i told you so and i knew this would happen. Just let her know if she needs you for whatever you arms are always and your shoulder is on standby
God Bless
2006-10-29 23:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, communicate the issues with her clear and concisely.
Second, you then tell her that you will back off and let her live her own life, but that if or when things were to get bad... you'll be allowed to say 'I told you so' and 'don't say I didn't warn you..'
Third, you will tell her that no matter what you love her and only want her to be happy.
2006-10-29 22:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by lady from the other day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋