why is it that men have to carry the burden of women. most women are jobless and feel that thy have all this powere between there legs yet all they seem to do is restrict sex and nag the life out of a man. why is it that men must carry women. dont women in genral think that its wrong to just be a leech on the back of a man. what happen to the helpful woman the respectful woman the woman. why is it that men must pay for dates. why do we have to prvide for you when most of you dont suport us. what does a guy have to do to never be trobled by the leech type woman again? ive met women that the only goal they have is to get a man to pay for everything that they want. to me that just doesent seem right. and with women they feel that they can get away with anything jsut because there a woman whats up with that. why do you do what youi do to kill us?
2006-10-29 14:39:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its funny how all the women doge the question and think that the problem is with the type of woman i go after but it had nothing to do with my question at all funny if you ask me. and as far as the lady that was she know lots of women that make more then there husbands. i bet he pays most of the bills
2006-10-29 14:58:11 · update #1
I'm 55 and have "watched" this issue for years. A great book called "his needs her needs" opened my eyes. For example. #1 on a guys list is sex. It is #14 for women. That should say a lot right there. But ....... I never had the great skill of flirtation, I was more athletic and all around friendly, but I think females mostly know they get what they want if they can produce the #1 want of the man's needs. I don't stand behind females who abuse relationships this way,but recently I worked as a cashier in a large retail chain store and i saw a ton at the cash register .... Oh honey, I left my wallet at home, batting of the eyelashes, anything to start the man thinking with his penis instead of his brain. A rather complex issue for both sides,but this book and "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" might give you some ideas to work with so you don' t get taken so easily.
2006-10-29 14:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
It looks like you have been attracted to the wrong type of women. You don't have to carry anybody. Period. Life is a two way street, When you are looking for a partner evaluate them. Look past the external package. Ask yourself some questions such as Does she have a job? Is she working on any goals? Is she a baby making machine(how many kids does she have). What does she have to bring to the table besides sex. Dependent and desperate women use sex to obtain material things. It is the only bargaining tool that they have and they have mastered the art. It sounds like you are a man that knows what he wants. Find a woman that doesn't have a problem with taking you out on occasion. Men place themselves in the position to used and be strung along by a woman who provides good sex. Don't set yourself up to be preyed upon. If you are looking for sex you can find that readily available anywhere. If you are looking for a woman with values, morals, and being an independent person you will have to look a little harder. They are out there. The independent woman such as myself have problems because the dependent woman make it so much harder for us to have a decent man. Anything goes with them. It doesn't matter if they are married or anything else, they have no boundaries. That is why we have so many "baby mama's" running around. I guess this label makes it a lot easier to be a woman of no substance. Take your time and let that woman you are looking for find you. Resist temptation and it will flee. Say to yourself, I DESERVE MORE THAN THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-29 23:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mae G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OUCH!!! WOW!!! I don't know where you live, but I don't know ANY women like you are describing. My husband is a surgeon & I still work. Mainly to keep myself busy & for a little extra money for whatever. I train horses & I do medical transcription. All of our friends have wives or girlfriends who work. All of the women in our families work. Anymore, to get what you want in this world both people have to work. If you are in a place where the women don't work, what do they do to get by??
I believe in accountability wether you are a man, woman or child. I lean on my husband for emotional support just as he does me. But I am not a nag or a leach. We have a house & three boys that I take care of while he is at work. We share EVERYTHING!!! He'll even do the shopping when I can't, like now. I had knee surgery recently & even though I know he hates doing it, he has done the shopping. I don't know, maybe women my age were just raised by better people. We were taught to stand on our own before we try to lean on someone else. Maybe girls are not being taught that anymore.
I am sorry your experiences have left you bitter toward women, but trust me, NOT ALL women want or expect a man to "take care" of them. Maybe if you look for what is on the inside of a woman, that is where you will find one that wants to be an equal partner in the relationship, instead of a woman who looks good on the outside & expects that to get her through life. Eventually the looks are GONE, then they will have NOTHING!!!
Good Luck to you... Keep looking, there are good ones left!!!!
2006-10-29 22:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you for the most part. I think a real relationship is give and take. Women should at least offer to pay, and do whatever they believe is morally right at that time, but not be wishy-washy with it. If you believe in having sex in that point of life, give him sex! If you believe in only making out, make out with the poor guy!
I believe that chivalry shouldn't die, and that we should still get doors open and have a guy pay for you... But... have a job if he does. Offer to help. Don't just take and not give anything back. Don't make the only thing you have to offer your body.
To answer your question, I have no clue. But remember, there are good women out there who give all they can in a relationship, and there are guys out there who would take advantage of that. There's bad to both genders, and you have to look hard to find the good.
2006-10-29 22:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzie H 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Find another woman... There are plenty out there...
Why must men pay for things? They don't have to. They can make the woman pay. The Sexual revolution happened. Women can ask men out, pay for the date, etc. Women's lib.
You don't have to stand for it. Walk away from such a woman.
2006-10-29 22:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How comfortable are you in you own skin? Are the only women you go out with the ones you describe? You are looking in the wrong places, my friend. Learn to be more discriminating before you go out with a woman. Do your homework, most honest women can stand on their own two feet without you. Can you deal with that?
2006-10-29 23:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why some women do that. I'm the one getting held out on most of the time. But if you want them to support themselves tell them no when they want you to pay for something. If it's dinner tell them up front that you want to go dutch. I think you need to speak up and tell her what you want her to pay for and have a discussion about it if she starts protesting.
2006-10-29 23:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by akgrlatheart 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A person is known by the company he keeps. There are many independent women out there. Move up to there level. If not able to, you will have to continue your learning at the level you're at. Eventually you will learn that contrary to how you may want to feel, The power IS in the pu**y!
2006-10-29 22:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know sir.........with all due respect, I have to wonder what non verbal... and perhaps verbal messages are you sending out to attract such women? Maybe you should work on developing your level of discernment so as to attract and choose a woman of integrity. We are all not leech type, burdensome women.
2006-10-29 22:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by Janet 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
hhhmmmmm that is my feeling about some men I have met... as far as the paying for the date - whomever is asking usually does the paying - that is proper.....holding doors etc...just plain gentlemanly and a lost art.....i personally think it's awesome. my perspective on your issue of sex is that, maybe she isn't liking something that you are doing...need to have a frank discussion with her. we dont want to kill you.....maybe you need a little guidance in stepping up .... possible you are being nagged, but those are a womans way of cluing you in....good luck!!!
2006-10-29 22:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by star 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋