I really like my exboyfriends friend Mike. But he doesn't wanna date me cause i dated his friend. But the truth is that I liked Mike months before I even kew his friend exsisted.
2006-10-29 14:30:36 · 23 answers · asked by gangsterfied_holly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dumped the guy cause he never ever talked to me n we dated for less than a week!!!
2006-10-29 14:41:29 · update #1
My ex not only cheated on me but NEVER talked to me!! He was jerk!! And when I gave my ex a second chance Mike asked "why did u do that?" That was before he knew I liked him. So does he like me?? I feel something between us!!
2006-10-29 15:04:50 · update #2
Guys like loyalty and avoiding getting into useless, friendship-ending conflicts with each other.
They probably also figure that it wouldn't work out for them, either, with someone that didn't get along with a friend close to them.
2006-10-29 14:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have a so called friendship handbook just like us girls do. Would you ever date on of your friends exes ? No. Why ? Because it is a respect issue with your friend. Guys are the same way. I'd say stop wasting your time and move on. If you like the friend before your ex you should have went for the friend and not your ex.
2006-10-29 14:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do not like to fish in another mans pond. Often it can lead to friction and feelings of superiority/inferiority between the guys. For example Mikes friend couldn't make it work but if Mike could then his friend would feel inferior to Mike and begin to not like him. Since Mike knows thats what his friend would be like then he will instantly avoid affecting his friendship with his friend by not even going there with you. He may also not be totally sure that he is over you, and doesn't want to hurt his friend.
Having said that if a guy is confronted with a situation where he desperately likes the girl then he would probably go ahead and go out with her anyway. Maybe he is not in that situation with you or maybe he resents the fact you went out with his friend instead of him.
It is often one of the reasons mentioned but does vary a bit and can also be very important to the guy. I dont want to defend him but it is important that you understand why he wont go out with you, but of course this means he has to tell you first!
Then you wouldn't have needed to ask anyway :)
2006-10-29 14:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a group of friends everybody gets down with everybody else eventually. Maybe that's just my folks, but we're pretty happy about it. We don't get mad, we high five!
Mike may be waiting for the bed to cool for a minute, out of respect for his friend. Bros before hoes. Give it a minute, and flirt with him. Before anybody's pants come off, Mike should give his bro a heads up if you two were serious, this will allow him the chance to get used to it, and pretend he doesn't care. If Mike's friend is really his friend he will want him to be happy and be with you. All this ASSUMES Mike digs you back....
2006-10-29 14:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by guysmiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot elaborate any more than the other posters, but will simply add this statement. Imagine that your best friend dates a boyfriend you just broke up with behind your back. How would you feel? We men may act like insensitive clods (we are in a lot of manners), but deep down inside we have the same feelings for your true friends. We just think expressing it in words will emasculate us in front of the boys.
If you really want to date him, the best way would be for your ex to set you guys up.
2006-10-29 14:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by inpoetry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most stay away from their friend's ex out of respect for their friendship. They don't want to lose a friend over something that may not even work out. Some guys will date their friend's ex, but then lose their friend because of it, and that's why most won't risk it.
2006-10-29 14:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Tigregrrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 13:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Mike I said it was OK. Its not like this is the first time this ever happened to someone. Your ex is just that..your ex. He no longer exists in your world.
2006-10-29 14:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by Karnak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just wierd. one the friend that used to date you will probably not be happy. plus we always think that once a guy has been with a girl she is kinda his territory but not really. so the thing is it is just a mental thing and since there is always the chance that when a guy breaks up with a girl or vice versa that he still likes her and if a frind moves in on that he is likely to lose a friend of a long time in the process
2006-10-29 14:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by dudeha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bad idea. My hat is off to Mike. There are plenty of mikes out there. Why jeopardize their friendship, or risk someone getting hurt.
"Don't do to someone else, what you would not like done to yourself".
2006-10-29 14:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋