She is 22 and I am 24. Both of us are well educated. I have a stable job and she was still finding a job. Talked a bunch by emails and she was really nice girl and sweet. Went on a total of three dates. On the first two dates, she ended it early saying she was tired. Date #1 was walking around old town of a city and getting to know each other. The city was very nostalgic. Date #2, we went out and had a couple of drinks and took her to a secluded bench to have some really nice chocolate, felt kind of romantic I guess. After each date, I would walk her to her car and gave her a goodbye hug and never tried to kiss her. Date # 3, which was the last nite, we went to go see a movie. I started to like her a lot and had a great time. After the date, we walked out and I had mentioned to her that the moon was so beautiful tonite. Then she mentioned to me that she had an ex-boyfriend that was all of a sudden walking back into her life. What is going on? What should a sweet guy do?
2006-10-29 14:19:02 · 18 answers · asked by Pool Player 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When we were planning for the third date, we set up a time, but she cancelled on me. A week later we went on the third date, which was when she told me about her ex. I felt so hurt and I emailed her how I felt and let her know if things dont work out between her and her ex, let me know. Did I do the wrong thing there by emailing her???
2006-10-29 16:11:52 · update #1
There are basically 3 possiblities:
1)It was just an excuse to stop dating you. I find a woman will find any number of excuses that don't involve just not being interested in you.
2)She had major fight with her boy friend, and you were her way of getting revenge, and/or feeling better about herself.
3)She's got major issues upstairs.
The answer is to breath a sigh of relief and count yourself lucky you dodged a bullet.
PS- You didn't make mistake emailing her. Most likely you'll never have heard from her again either way. If you do hear back from her I'd be very wary of this one.
PPS- In the future always try for the kiss on the 2nd date. If you don't she'll think you aren't interested, or don't find her attractive. Just look into her eyes, and brush your hand across her cheek. If she pulls back no harm, no foul on either side. Some women will want you to want to kiss them even if they aren't ready to kiss you.
2006-10-30 14:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-19 23:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both men and women go back to ex's because it's known territory, it's comfortable. There's still some emotion left over or there wouldn't be a repeat. Maybe there are still some issues to be ironed out - who knows. There really isn't anything you can do I'm sorry to say. She's going to make her decision based on how she feels. I'm sorry you got caught in the middle but until she gets the ex out of her system there isn't much chance for you two. There's nothing wrong with you voicing your feelings concerning her actions. You should continue to be yourself and be upfront with her. Hopefully this all comes to a satisfactory ending.
2006-10-30 14:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by ardeth75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different reasons why! Some because it was something in that person that they still loved. Some because everyone after that person was a complete waste of time. Some may have children and they wish to try again for their sakes. That was who they truly wanted to be with, but was separated by uncontrollable events. Or it could be purely physical, the best sex she every had !!! Cut your losses and move -on!
2006-10-29 14:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-02-11 07:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People go back to their ex's because they know what to expect. A lot of the time they forget WHY that person is an ex!
2006-10-29 14:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, take it as experience and quickly move on! Look on the bright side at least it wasn't after 6 or7 dates.. know what I mean?
2006-10-29 14:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by lady from the other day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried Pull Your Ex Back technique? Look on this website : http://www.ExRecoveryFormula.com . This will absolutely guide everyone!
2014-08-19 18:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most woman are hookers at heart nomater how educated they are there job is to play men. but you have an advantage your a man and can just cut her off without another word. dont like woman play games with you
2006-10-29 14:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her go baby. let her go back to the bf and im sure she will regret it like i did in that same situation. you will find someone that appreciates u and ur romantic gestures. i know i would ::wink:: lol. take care and i hope i was of some help!!
LET HER GO!!
2006-10-29 14:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋