i lost a son a year ago during child birth, i have 2 beautiful daughters and have been advised to have my womb taken away i know this is for the best and it is really hard to come to terms with somebody please help what would you do?
2006-10-29 14:18:58 · 8 answers · asked by NATASHA S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would do whatever I had to do to be around to see my two beautiful daughters grow up.
2006-10-29 14:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jane D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are having any doubts at all - any - seek a second opinion. You don't say why you've been advised - I don't know if it's because you have something like cancer or something like cysts. This is a serious procedure, and if I were having any questions about it, I would not hesitate to see another specialist about it.
The loss of your child must have been agony. I had an early miscarriage and it was so incredibly painful - I can't imagine what you must have gone through to deliver your beautiful child only to lose him. God bless you and bring you peace.
Finally, I would also consider seeing a therapist about this. Even if the 2nd opinion helps you better "cement" your decision, having a hysterectomy has its own set of emotional problems. Your hormones will be thrown completely out of whack. As I understand it, it effectivly throws you into early menopause (although I could be wrong about that). While you won't be able to see it on the outside, losing your reproductive system is much like losing a limb.
As for people telling you to just move on and enjoy your life, I would just move on past those answers. What you're going through isn't something that can be "pat pat"ed and "there there"d away.
It sounds to me like while part of this is about the loss of your child, much of your confusion is coming from losing this part of you that has sort of defined you. But trust me - this won't make you less of a mommy. It won't take away who you are. You are more than the sum of your body parts, reproductive or not.
I truly wish you the best and that you find peace with whatever decision is made.
2006-10-30 00:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm am so sorry for your loss. I lost my nearly 6 year old son 5 years ago...I have a beautiful daughter and had had my tubes tied, so I couldn't even consider more kids. Then my husband left, so it wasn't an issue. Anyway, if doctors recommend it for a good reason, then you should consider doing it. Sometimes we have to be satisfied with what we have. Even if you did have another baby it wouldn't bring back the one you lost. Ultimately, it's you who has to make the decision though. Good luck.
2006-10-29 22:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the desire you have in wanting another child and I truly feel for you. Been there, done that after the death of my oldest child. BUT despite how bdly you want another child, you have to think of your living children first. If having surgery means you will be around to see your daughters grow up then that's what you need to dol It's a hard decision I know but your daughters need their mother.
2006-10-29 22:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God has blessed you with the 2 children you have, as hard as it is you must listen to your doctors, you do not want to have another difficult labor and possibly lose your own life next time, your daughters need their mother. God Bless you
2006-10-29 22:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't change something, change the way you think about it.
Now the pressure of getting pregnant is off, and now you can really get into raising your daughters without appology. Get yourself busy into something you like doing...take fabulous family trips. ENJOY YOUR LIFE YOU HAVE!
2006-10-29 22:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i think i would try again if it wasent life threatening, so i wouldnt regret it later, and if you do have a life threatening situation you can always consider adoption
2006-10-30 09:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all I can offer is an e-hug.
I'm so sorry
2006-10-30 00:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Raina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋