2006-10-29 14:18:28 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it's your bf
2006-10-29 14:21:26 · update #1
lust isnt love-and just check the guys history--your a princess so act and believe it-honor yourself and marriage too-your worth it---
true love is as a friend-and doesnt use another or lie-Jesus is the best example coming to die for us and offering to come into our heart and save us and be our true friend-in amazing grace-with thanks-
2006-10-30 05:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It REALLY depends on the guy. It isn't either or, sometimes it's said just for sex, and other times it's real. I couldn't tell you if YOUR guy meant it without knowing him and/or the situation. So I would judge it on how long you're in the relationship. If it has only been like less than a month, then I would guess he's just saying it for sex. Also, if it seems like he's trying to coax you into it, and he says it then, then it's it's definately for sex. You have to judge the character of the man, and analyze the situation in which he said it.
2006-10-29 14:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by ern_linnell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on a lot of factors. How long have you been in this relationship?
If he says I love you after being in a relationship with you for months or even years without getting laid, then its a likely bet he means it.
However, (if you'll excuse more than a little crassness on my part) spreading your legs for a guy you've known and dated only for a few months or weeks who say I love you, no matter how convincingly and no matter how deeply they are staring into your eyes is a bad, bad bet for you. If he truly loves you, he will be willing to wait until your ready. If his native interests are his only concern, he won't be willing to wait, and frankly, is not worth your time or emotional investment!
2006-10-29 14:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I guess in most cases, men just want sex. But if he asks you for sex and you turn him down and yet if he likes you, behaves the same way as used to then it can be said that he really meant it when he said 'I love you'. Especially when he has been with you for a reasonable period of time and never cheated on you then one can say that he is really serious about you.
2006-10-29 14:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They probably don't know what love is and are still in the crush stage. If you think (or you can know by asking) whether the guy would give up everything to be with you, has made himself vulnerable to you and would be lost without you, then he loves you. If not, he either doesn't know what love is or wants sex or both.
2006-10-29 14:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have a really slow curve towards actually falling in love with someone: it takes a while to get it there, but once he is in love, he's going to stay in love. So, if a guy tells you he loves you early on, chances are good he is just trying to get in your pants. However, if you have been together for awhile, there's a good chance that the feeling is genuine.
Hopes that help.
2006-10-29 14:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by hotstepper2100 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like some of the people have responded, I too believe it really depends on the guy. You have to watch the personality and use the better of your judgment to see weather he is the type of person that would say that would use those 3 words honestly or not.
Nevertheless, make no mistake about it. 90% of guys would use those words loosely to get play.
2006-10-30 06:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by dajyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it is a lot of factors in this.. generally for a mature guy i'd say yes he really means that he loves you... now what love is for you and he could be different.. some guys see sex as a form of love.. some women see sex as love (giving of herself)...
we as humans really need to look at what love is and is not especially as men and women see it...
a great source is the Bible whereas there are many different forms of love (seven i believe).. so qualify or disqualify which form of love he says you say you want kinda thing.
also and not surprising many Psychs uses these from the Bible.
2006-10-29 14:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, are you two in any kind of committed relationship? If so, I would say he does mean it, but according to a well known psychologist ( and I'm sorry, I don't remember her name) but she said that a man will give love to get sex, and a women will give sex to get love. So think about it, because that statement is so true.
2006-10-29 14:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh!
Depends on the guy sweetie. If he's honest he's telling you the truth but if he's not then I guess he's not telling you the truth. Love is about caring for others not self... selfish people only want waht they want and don't care about what you want so if you give into a selfish person he will just move on... hope this was a help...
2006-10-29 16:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by Cub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on the type of guy. If hes a good guy, then he wouldnt just tell anyone he loves them for any ol reason. If hes a horn dog and just in it for the sex, then he will eventually end up making all types of different promises that he cannot keep. you will see right through his lies if you just pay attention.
2006-10-29 14:21:49 · answer #11 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋