Is it Strange To Love a Cartoon Character?

Question

I've liked this guy for a really long time! The problem is that he's fake! I've had dreams about us having sex and a family. This guy is my dream guy. I watch this cartoon everytime its on tv even if it's a rerun. I love him and wish so much that he'd be real. Please I want him to be able touch me and love me. I told my boyfriend how I could never love him for I love another man. When I told him he was very and angry and told everyone including my family about my true love. Now everyone thinks I'm strange and I'm seeing a shrink. I don't think its strange for I know he'll become flesh and bone and whisk me away from this world and into his own world. I love him and would do anything for him as I know he would do the same for me!

Answer 1

(I know this answer is long, but please read it all)

Actually, it probably isn't. I'm no shrink but it sounds like this Cartoon Character is in a way, your "dream guy". A crush, or light infatuation with a fantasie character is perfectly normal, but flat out love to the extent that you will break up with your boyfriend and never love him, it is a problem.

You have fallen in love not with a cartoon character, but with what you want a guy to be like, and this guy just happens to be a cartoon character. The fact is, you may love this cartoon, but he isn't real, his characteristics, personality, etc. maybe exactly what you are looking for but you have to realize, there is no way for you to ever be with this character. Your fantasies and dreams will probably never come true with this certain character and you just have to get over that.

Turning away a boyfriend and other loves in your life because you "love" a cartoon is the worst way to deal with this "problem." I would suggest pretending that you and this character were together in a relationship, but only to have him break up with you. Have him say he never wants to see you again and that he despises you. This may help you to get over this "love" with this character, and may even create an underline anger towards him.

Once this happens, you will want to meet another man, and have a relationship with him. Perhaps not because you like this man, but because you want to "get back" at this character who heartlessly rejected you. After a while, you will get over it completely and you will not think about him as much and you can date other men and get on will your life.

It is also possible that you have not been very successful in your love life search, so you have taken everything that you have not been able to find, and placed it all in a cartoon character. One that you can see everyday, almost whenever you want to. And sence this character doesn't even know that you exist, you know, at least subconciously, that this character can never reject you, therefore, you will never be able to feel the pain and heartache that you have been experiencing over and over again.

The fact of the matter is, he won't become flesh and bone and he won't whisk you away fromt his world and bring you to your own. He DOES NOT love you, he WOULD NOT do anything for you. HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW YOU EXIST!!!

I believe that this is truly a problem that you need to overcome. The sooner the better. If not that soon, even sooner.

Answer 2

Strange? Nah, I've seen weirder, hell, I've done weirder things online with women....

But this may well be a *futile* exercise until or unless you find a way to generalize your "love" or infatuation in such a way that you can find a *real person* that is a close match. Meaning, you have to ask yourself the tough questions: What do I "love" about the character? Is it the appearance? Personality traits as depicted? Behavior in context of the show?

Really, this isn't *too* far removed from falling in love with a live actor's protrayal of a character, but the thing you have to understand is, to keep this from being nothing *but* a source of embarrassment for you, you're going to have too look carefully at what the *appeal* is for you, and try to see if you can't find real people who match.

And you need to ask yourself: Is it love, or do you just have a crush, is it really just an infatuation with any combination of a) the appearance/art style of the character, b) personality traits that are present with the character but uncommon in real-life people, and/or c) the total context of the show itself--a character that may be *perfect* in a fictional setting might well be "too romantic" or "too manly" or whatever for the real world.

And yeah, I know it sounds like I am repeating myself, because there is a common thread here. You have to ask yourself the hard questions and actually have either a) the courage to admit that it is an infatuation or crush, *or* b) the will and desire to do whatever it takes to find a reasonably close match.

And also keep in mind. This is *art* we are talking about here. Lots of people will laugh at me too for saying this, but animation, done well, *is* an art form like any other and like any form of art it is *supposed* to appeal to the emotions and is *supposed* to be friendly to the senses.

I mean, really, can anyone seriously tell me with a straight face that the classical painters, your Da Vincis, Rembrandts, Michaelangelos, your Monets, that they *never* had any deep feelings or passions for the people they painted? No, of course not....passion and feeling *goes into the best art* and therefore it should be no surprise that *that* is what comes out of it at the other end when others behold it.

So yeah....I guess my whole entire point boils down to: Yes, your feelings here are real and genuine, and there is no harm in admitting this.

But now you need to start looking upon your beloved art *with your mind* as well as your heart. You need to seriously start to think about, analyze and process your feelings so that they make sense and so that you can do something sensible with them.

I hope this helps, and thanks for your time! :) And trust me, you aren't weird...really. This happens a lot more often that people admit to. Usually.

Answer 3

Hi britney.

It's not strange you love this character. It probably has the personality of your Idea for a perfect match.

But don't confuse things. You'd love a man with such personality, that's what attracts you, not the actual character.

Through the episodes you may have had the chance to get to know lots of details about him, that's why you feel this way. You want someone to make you feel like this character does.

Trust me, you'll find a man that makes you feel the same.
Don't wait for such person to come around. You have lots to experience.

Hope I could help

Answer 4

when I first read your question I thought not only it is strange to love a cartoon character but also it is even strange to ask "if it is strange?" but by thinking a little, now I believe you like some special personalities of that character. is not it better to find out what are these personalities and seek them in real world?

cartoon characters are fake but they are based on some facts in real world: Dreams of people and real people behaviors.

seek your dreams in the world, you will reach them.

Answer 5

You may be enjoying living in a make believe, romantic dream world. The thing with doing this is it is ok to have these romantic daydreams as long as they don't interfere with your life. Yours is interfering with your life. (When you say you cannot love anyone except your fantasy dream man that is interference in your life) You really know that this dream man will never become real. It is fun for you to think that and as long as you do you can avoid real life responsibilities.

Answer 6

It's one thing liking a cartoon character but to actually think he will become real is insane!!! Sorry but that is all I have to say. Hope you get the help you need, good luck!

Answer 7

Fantasies are great-maybe even nescessary to the human condition, but if you can't seperate reality from you fantasy then you probably do need some psychological assistance. Good luck. PS: I am going to win the lottery soon too!

Answer 8

i have had my share of fantasies with comic characters. in fact, i'm so infatuated with the character (Mitsui from a japanese anime, Slamdunk) that i have announced him as the perfect man for me. although i have been through all that (and am still looking out for perfect recreations of him in human form) i'm not limiting myself to the posibilities of REAL LIFE. that is why we are in love with fictional characters, because sometimes fantasy is easier to grasp than fact. it's alright to have fantasies, but don't go overboard with loving a man on paper.

Answer 9

One of my daughters had a big crush of Goofy when she was three. You should see her boyfriend! Quit watching the TV so much. There is someone out there just perfect for you!

Answer 10

I think you need a break from that cartoon start dreaming good things with your current love.