What to say when talking to a 10 year old daughter about the facts of life?

Answer 1

The truth, and please don't call the body parts "cutesy " names, the male has a penis and the female has a vagina, there is no reason to talk "down" to a 10 year old.

Answer 2

Just be truthful. She's not really going to want to hear it from you, but it is important that she hear it from you and not someone else. Just give her the facts without going into too much detail unless she asks. You don't want to overwhelm her. Don't wait too long, my daughter got her period when she was 11. You might want to start by telling her that in the next few years she will probably be getting her period then explain what that is and the purpose of getting it. I will be a little uncomfortable but you'll get through it. Good luck.

Answer 3

My daughter is one year younger than your daughter and I began talking about sex in levels from the time she discovered her body parts at 3. My mother went the scientific route with pictures and book about our bodies. The best part was the book about our bodies, that scientific picture drawing of the uterus and womb was too much. Just openly talk to her honestly. Let her know that being sexual with another person can be very emotional and hard to understand at her young age. Let her know that she can ask you anything and you will not get angry or upset. Honestly you may be upset with some things she ask but you will know what is going on with your child. But buy the book.

Answer 4

First let her know that everything is confidential between the two of you. Reassure her that there is nothing that she can't ask or talk w/ you about. Then, ask her, First, if she has anything she wants to ask you, about that topic, or talk w/ you about. Her questions being answered, if she openly asks you, might be enough info that you are comfortable to give her right now. Letting her know what your thoughts and questions were when you were her age might help you both realize that it is all nature and there are no wrong questions and/or answers between the two of you.

It's so sad to know how much sex "ed" is getting to kids through peers and TV. So, she may already know more than you know or that she is willing to admit. As long as she feels confident that she can come to you about anything, I think that as long as the conversation stays honest, w/ open minds, she will be provided w/ the proper information.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Give her the medical names of body parts, and only give her as much information as you think that she can take. As her parent you'll know what she is able to understand. Things to take into consideration: Is she physically maturing? Is she asking questions on what is physically done during sex or is she asking about what will/is happening to her own body? Does she have an older sibling or relative that is having these changes and is questioning why and when these things will happen to her? Is she hearing "slang" words and doesn't really know what it means?
If she is just curious then give her the names of her body parts and tell her what will happen to her. If she asked for more information then give it to her in doses that she can handle. She can know that mommies and daddies have these body parts and that they are for this and they can do that. Its okay to tell her if you are uncomfortable about talking to her about something or everything. Its okay to tell her that some of this conversation will have to be done later, as she understands how her body works and how the male body works. Just let her know that you will get her the answers that she needs: either verbally or by book. And then tell her you are available to answer her questions to the best of your ability and if you don't know that you will find out and get back to her. Also be aware that you will have to interject your sexual values to her either now or in the future. When it comes up talk to her about abstinance, condoms, AIDS, STDS, masterbation, pornography as well as sexual consequences based on your personal and religious values. Also you will need to impart the emotional maturity that goes hand in hand with the physical act. This is a conversation that will need to unfold over time.

Answer 6

i will go one farther and say there is no reason to talk it down to any child of any age, my 8 and 3 yr old have known since the time they could talk that a girl has a vagina and a boy has a penis, and everyone has an anus thats where the poop comes out.

For your question, I don't know and I wish I did as I am gearing up to have THE TALK with my oldest. I am putting this question on my watchlist to see if I get any good ideas.

Answer 7

When you talk to her about the facts of life you don't want to scare her you want her to beable to talk with you and know your there for her when she decides that its the right time for her to give herself to another. The first time you talk about it will be hard but have confidence in yourself, you can do it. Tell her that waiting is important and it should mean something to her it is something she can never get back. Tell her that you would like for her to wait but if she must use protection. Make sure you tell her about the different types of STD's and how dangerous it is not to use condoms and birthcontrol. tell her if she would like when she is ready that you will go with her to get birthcontrol if she wants you to take her. Dont be pushy when you talk to her dont loose your cool. hope this helps you!!!!

Answer 8

Explain the basics--the man puts his penis in the woman's vagina, etc. You know how it works. I would preface it with "When a man and woman love each other very much...," to subtlely encourage her to be careful about who she does stuff with when she's older. Make sure you mention the whole baby making part, and also cover birth control, just in case. Please don't put it off, because then you'll wind up like my father, who gave me "the talk" when I was eightteen and already knew everything I needed to.

Answer 9

Tell her the truth. Our son is 10. Just don't answer more than the question that is asked. Our rule is: If they are old enough to ask the question, they are old eough to hear the answer.

Answer 10

my daughter is 8 and due to the world we live in today she knows all about it, i explained periods and where babies come from the thing was she acted as if she already knew thats what got me things are said in schools by friends that you never really know what your child knows or doesn't.