Ok, I am planning to go home to my family, the man in my life says, that the only reason I am leaving is because I have over 20 boyfriends, i have tried to tell him that wasn't the reason, my kids aren't happy here and I have to do what I can to make them happy, Now he says that if I leave then I never loved him. It is like he is trying to make me choose him over my kids. which I will choose my kids first anyway, but he won't listen to reason, yes i know it's better to leave before it gets worse, but how can i make him understand i have to be the parent and help them be happy with life as well? Please help me. I am on my last nerve. I don't know how much longer I can go on like this. HELP!!!!!!
2006-10-29 14:07:07 · 13 answers · asked by Boo G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would basically turn around and say fine, ill tell you what "yeah I dont love you, I love my kids more."
and I will never let a man come in between me and them and if thats what you are trying to do, then good ridance. I can find a man that understands that my kids are everything to me.
see ya.
its hard and harsh but it seems at this point its what he needs to hear.
2006-10-29 14:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will probably never understand, sad to say. You said what had to be said, and if he can't comprehend what you are doing then don't waste anymore time trying. Your kids win, and he can just continue to play his guilt trip games - only if you let him. If he loved you, he would be able to see your side of this situation and perhaps find some way to go with you and continue on your relationship. He just sounds like he is being selfish and dumb, so don't compromise what you are doing just for him.
2006-10-29 14:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the man in your life has extreme jealousy issues. This is a big warning sign for abuse later to come. Now, I don't know him and I don't know any more of the situation than you have told me, so if I am wrong about that please forgive me. However, if you don't think I am wrong, I would get OUT and AWAY from him as fast as possible and I wouldn't leave any contact information for him at all. I would make a clean break.
2006-10-29 14:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by peacedevi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HE needs help. YOU are not the person to help him. Save the kids, go home to your family. LET HIM go on with his life and choose the person he wants to be. Your job is not to "change his mind" or prove to him that he is wrong. The more you try, to more angry he will become.
2006-10-29 14:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your problem, I think you should leave and let him deal with his own insecurities. Always do what's best for you and your children. If this man truly loves you he will find a way to make it work or follow you and support you in your decision. Move on....
2006-10-29 14:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your right kids do come first and hes just being juvenile,self-centred and controlling. he is a waste of energy and time. do what you got to do. you'll be better off without him. cant make people like that understand cos if could, you wouldn't be asking for advise. good luck
2006-10-29 14:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, children is the most important person in our life.its a must that we choose our children over our man.maybe your man is selfish enough to not listen to your feelings.maybe he is not that good person for your children so why waste your time to that kind of person.u should find man that will help u enough and love your children to the fullest that he love you.goodluck.
2006-10-29 14:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by rub 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? You keep telling youself over and over how LUCKY you are that the SOB isn't your husband. You KNOW he's trying to manipulate you, right? Tell him to not let the door hit him in the butt on his way out. You don't need his permission to do what you need to do.
2006-10-29 14:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay if he is like that he's just immature. he should know that your kids come first. tell him that you do really love him, but that your kids are important too. and hunny if he can't handle that he was never right for you anyway.
2006-10-29 14:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Caroline F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell this man that your children DO come first and if he has a problem with that, that is his problem and not to let the door hit him on the butt on the way out
2006-10-29 14:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋