ok well i want to go to a college outside of my city. My parents wont let me go. the ysay if i get accepted into a school i really want to go to and it isnt near by then we will all move there. but i am the oldest and that means i would have to make my siblings move when they are juniors and seniors in high school and i dont want to have to do that, becuase i would hate if my older sister did that to me. I dont want to have to base my career on the fact that i cant move. there is no way that i can convince my parents either. I feel so limited because my state college isnt the best college. what do i do?
2006-10-29 13:53:53 · 6 answers · asked by haleema 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They said they might consider let me go if it was for post graduate school, because i would be older and more responsible. They are afraid of my safety and stuff.
2006-10-29 13:55:16 · update #1
I was in exactly the same situation as you. I suggest that you apply to the schools that you would consider going to. Then after you find out where you get in, that is the time to convince your parents to let you go away for college. Let them understand that it's important to you and your future and allowing you to have this experience will make you become more independent and responsible. It wouldn't be fair to your siblings if they had to drop everything and leave. What will happen when it is time for your siblings to go to college. They cannot expect all of you to go to the same college. You shouldn't really stress about anything until you see where you get in, because if you do, it'll just be a waste. But good luck!
2006-10-29 15:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is just a suggestion... I would get student loans and as much finacial aide as i possibly could. Do not rely on your parents if you do then you are bound by what they say, but if you go out and do it on your own then they can't stop you. Live your dreams and make no limitations because your parents are afraid to let go. It sounds to me like your parents are holding you back your out of high school now that means your grown. However if you are stuck going to state college the tuition is much cheaper to receive your basics. In short YOU decide your future no one else. If you really want to move you will find a away. Good Luck
2006-10-29 14:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by ac2009 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your commitment is to your husband and baby. The marriage is between you and your husband, however. People move all the time ,and the children adapt easily to many situations. If your parents want to be apart of the grandchild's life, they will accept this decision of yours. If they don't, this will be a tough love decision on your part. Understand emotional blackmail isn't the way a parent should be, but this may be your case with your parents. This emotional blackmail may come in the forms of no help financially if, won't talk to you if, or you'll be sorry if type scenarios. Pray and be strong as to keep your family together. Be careful with other people around your children, this might be your parents concern with the brother-in-law. Not that he is a pedophile, but this could be their fear.
2016-03-28 01:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are only concern for your safety and have a hard time letting go of their beloved daughter. If I have a daughter I love so much, I can't let her go too especially when she's not old enough yet to protect herself. It's better to wait till you're in college so you're mature enough. Your parents will breathe easier , knowing you're big enough to handle the dangers of life.
2006-10-29 14:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Are you older than age 18?.
2. Are you paying 100% for the college?
If YES to both, sorry parents, but you have no say in this.
2006-10-29 14:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds crazy
2006-10-29 14:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dr shiznet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋