I know I've asked this question before, just want to get more opinions on it. I started to like this best friend of mine three months ago. Finally I decided to ask her out on a date in a couple of weeks and see how it goes. The problem is, we often hang out together but just as friends. However this time I kind of wanting her to feel it's different. How do I make it feel like a date (without too much physical contact)? Where should we go? Any help is appreciated!
2006-10-29 13:52:17 · 4 answers · asked by Yao L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her you're into her and want to start "dating". That will change the mood of everything trust me, and if she's not with it you'll know right away. I'd tell her while you're already out rather than over the phone or make a big deal out of it.
2006-10-29 13:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the date on the full moon, next one being Sunday, November 5. Saturday night would be good. Most women (and men for that matter) are more open on a full moon. Go buy some brand new quality clothes, preferably something that accentuates your good physical traits, such as a tight shirt to show off big muscles for instance. Get a great hair cut, and really preen yourself good, doing an extra close job at shaving, and get a very fine quality cologne. Go check out something called "Romance" and splash on just a touch. Take her to an elegant place that's dark and where you can order fine wine. Practice beforehand what you will talk about, something that is provocative and fascinating. By the way, make it her night, not yours. Talk about her, ask her about her thoughts, dreams, how she FEELS about certain things. Emphasize in your language sensuousness. Pay attention to the words she uses. For instance, if you happen to notice her using the term "pleasure" more than once, then you begin to use it as well. This will give her a sense of closeness, the thought that maybe your minds are compatible. Make it a magical night. It could cost you several hundred dollars in clothes, a fine meal, etc. but it may just be the night that makes the turn. Remember that you waited too long and that she thinks of you platonically. But that doesn't mean it can't turn if you give her enough reasons. At some point, not immediately, make some physical contact, minor like holding her hand for a second, but do it subtley and only out of genuine caring and outward concern, not "making your move." See how she reacts. If its positive, try it again. If she reciprocates, I'd say you're well on your way.
The moment will come when you walk her to her door. If she asks you in, your in (her heart). You now have the go-ahead to kiss her. Do so just as you walk in and shut the door. I guarantee that she will kiss you back. Define what it is you want. A lover? Lover's touch.
2006-10-29 14:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by Morpheus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy friend laid down the following pre-requisites for a date and I agree with him:
(i) it's dinner (or it could be lunch... ) you eat at somewhere nicer and more posh than your usual hang out place.
(ii) you pick her up from her place - offer to pick her up.
(iii) pay for her meal. you don't have to make it sound so serious! just think up of an excuse to buy her dinner if you all have been going dutch.
(iv) suggest that you go do something after dinner/lunch (if it's early)... like watch movie, a long walk at the park/beach... (be creative).
And no, no physical contact that much please. You'll scare her away fast... Remember, the idea is to let her know it is a date... It will be a transition... so, you need to make her feel comfortable. Think of her needs and feelings... and good luck!
2006-10-29 13:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring her flowers and take her to dinner so that the two of you can talk. be honest about your feeling. after dinner take her to the movies.
2006-10-29 13:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋