Would you marry a man who has no money at all but he has a job now and getting around 2000 a month? He is 33 years old, no children and have never been married before. What I mean would it be the problem for you that he does not have money at all and his own property? Do you think this man is a looser?
2006-10-29 13:48:50 · 20 answers · asked by truli u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If he has a job, then he has some money at least coming in. Do you love him? Does he love you? If yes to both questions, then marry him regardless of his lack of any substantial bank account(s).
Please do not take this the wrong way and no offense meant, but the way you worded your question makes you seem as if you are more concerned with his bank balance than any mutual feelings you may or may not share. This is not a healthy way to be when it comes to any relationship of any kind . . . romantic, platonic, etc.
Good luck!
2006-10-29 14:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
33 and only 2000/mth is a question only you can answer. I wouldn't marry if this is the concern that may be stopping you.
I would ask whether or not he's living his dreams, doing something responsible, something you admire or look up to. For instance, I'd take $2000/mth honest person over a 10,000/mth drug dealer. Is he kind? Loving? Respectful?
If ambition and a large paycheck is important to you then that's something you need to take into account for and maybe work on if its for shallow reasons (Which it doesn't have to be). However if the guy has no ambitions in life, is a slob, Works in Dennies because that's what he expects from the world, then maybe you are on the right track...
Hope this helps.
-Rob
2006-10-29 22:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question makes no sense whatsoever. First you say he has no money and then you say he has a job which makes him $2K per month. Which is it becasue it can't be both? The only way that $2K would be nothing at all is if you were Donald Trump or were a golddigger marrying someone only for their money. It sounds like you are the latter. The man is not the loser. You are.
2006-10-29 23:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you love him, I mean really love him. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks but you. If however, you want to marry into wealth and security, then I would suggest looking for someone else. If he hasn't acquired much by the age of 33, he probably won't become rich. But I really don't know him or you, but the best thing is to follow your heart. If you go against your heart, you won't be happy. I would marry him if I was crazy in love, otherwise no, marriage is pretty serious.
2006-10-29 22:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by newstudent06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps the man in question should manage his finances better, and come up with a saving strategy. I don't think I'm particularly materialistic, but it doesn't seem sensible to be involved with someone who can't keep track of their budget. After all, money is an important issue in married life, and the reason most marriages break up.
2006-10-29 21:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by Purplepossum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does he do workwise? What are his prospects? 2K a month is not a lot of money! How much do you make? What do you do? Do you plan on having kids and getting a house?
Based on this, I can't say he is a loser, since that is my salary roughly, but then I my job went to India and I figure that I will double my current salary within 2 years by hard work and studying.
There is a difference in the situation.
2006-10-29 22:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by starting over 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was looking for a man to spend the rest of my life with this is what I would look for.
1. How does he treat you??
2.Is he a hard worker,Has a full time Job??
3.Does he have goals in life??
I wouldn't date a guy because he didn't have much money that sounds dumb on your behalf.
2006-10-29 22:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by bbrcss 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Finance is the least discussed topic before marriage and it is at least the second important part. Most marriage break up over money. Talk to him about how you spend money and make sure you agree on the basics - don't spend more than you make, don't over use credit cards, how does he feel about home ownership, etc.
You don't have to be a perfect financial match, but you can be complete opposites and hope to be happy.
Mike Honeycutt
2006-10-29 21:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by mahoneycuttnc2002 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man is steady and a good man then I believe that any woman that passes him up because he isn't a wealthy man isn't worth your time. He is not a looser. Building a life together means just that building a life together.
2006-10-29 23:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as someone (man or not) works at a job and is trying to achieve something then he or she is honest and hard working.
I don't judge people by their money I judge people by the person they are.
Having a job is one trait I believe is a sign of striving to be productive and to judge someone by the amount they make is a mistake.
2006-10-29 22:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋