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Question

I made a stupid mistake. I was pretty sure that this girl liked me and I never talked to her because I really liked her and was way to shy. I was going to try to talk to her after my schedule loosened up a bit just recently, but now im not sure what to think. She went from locking eyes every time we passed eachother (amoung other things) to totally ignoring me. Is there anything i can do about this and is there any chance at all?
(I know i asked once, im asking twice to try to get more answers on this, thanks for your time though).

Answer 1

She got tired of waiting for you to say something, figured maybe it was her imagination. At this point you have nothing to loose so walk up to her with a rose and this poem;

Our eyes met,
what to say
I thought I'd know another day
I waited wondering what to do
all the while thinking of you
'til I was sure the words weren't wrong
Have I waited far too long

Go for it!

Answer 2

Of course I can't know (we would need to ask her, and then interpret from there), but it sounds like she got tired of "chasing" you. If up until now you gave no sign of having an interest, who can blame her? She may have even met someone ask.

Perhaps you're not aware of it, but it is often painful to continually "turn toward" someone, only to have them not respond.

It sounds like your shyness is real problem for you, and believe me, you are far from alone on that. Furthermore, "social phobia" is considered a serious mental illness. One of its many symptoms is extreme shyness and avoidance of situations just like the one you describe. If you suffer from these kinds of "symptoms," there is no point in blaming yourself for it, because no one would consciously choose to suffer this way. Certainly it is not your fault if you do.

I think that this is a rather challenging, awkward situation (although you can also learn from it!)

You could try to make it easier by saying something like, "Don't I know you from such-and-such? i.e., the class where you met her, etc. DON'T make up a situation where you met her-- not only is it dishonest and she will know this, but it starts any possible future relationship with her off on the wrong foot.

Beware! She may deny having ever laid eyes on you! However, if she does acknowledge that you look familiar, then you can say that you've been meaning to introduce yourself to her.... and whatever it was that you planned to say when your "schedule cleared up." If you had no idea of what to say in the first place, then I guess that makes it a little difficult. Try talking about whatever it is that it seem you two have in common, and if she responds positively, then let her know that you'd like to get to know her better.

But here's the lesson, if you haven't gotten it already: in my view, it's "Don't delay getting to know someone UNLESS you feel certain that you won't mind if it turns out that you've lost your chance. Life is short, and no-- no one is just waiting around for your schedule to clear up before you show some interest in them. People aren't dispensible that way.

Perhaps it's time to re-evaluate your priorities, i.e., relationships vs. your schedule?

Answer 3

She probably got tired of waiting for you to make a move, or she thinks that since you didn't you weren't really all the interested. Here's what you do: Talk to her in whatever way you feel comfortable about her boyfriend situation, and if she says she has one, leave it alone, obviously. If she says she doesn't have one, MAKE A FRIGGIN MOVE. Ask her out, dude. If she says no, at least you tried. You may still have a chance if you act fast. Good luck.

Answer 4

Try to get her AIM or Yahoo name if she has one or look her up online. I know it sounds stupid, but it's a lot easier to start to talk to someone online than in person, especially if you feel like this. If you feel more comfortable talking to her in person, go up to her and say hi. Introduce yourself if she doesn't already know you and maybe ask her a question, like do you know where the nearest McDonalds is or something, just to get talking. Girls are very forgiving to guys who show interest and respect. I'd say, you still have a chance.

Answer 5

I think there is a chance that will be psyched to have your attention. The stopping of her flirting may mean that she is not interested in you anymore. OR it just may mean that she feels like she has given you enough signals and now it's your turn. She's decided she's not going to fall all over herself flirting with someone who's not interested in her. So she may still like even though she hasn't showed it recently, she's just leaving it to you to make your move. I say go for it!

Answer 6

well, you could try talking to her. most women like guys that are confident, although we find it cute when they're a little shy. walk up to her and say, i have liked you for a while now, and i was wondering if you would like to go to dinner with me. if she says no, you're not dead. i know it will hurt. maybe she doesn't know you are as interested as you are. just tell the girl how you feel. she will come around. just watch.

Answer 7

All you need to do is strike up a conversation with her. Just looking at her won't tell you much about how she feels about you. Try to get to know her a little better, try to be her friend, and the truth shall set you both free.

Answer 8

just go and talk to her i know its hard but say hey the next time you pass and even maybe ask her to a low key dance or out to dinner or bowling have fun

Answer 9

Don't be stupid! Go talk to her...maybe she was put out because she sent the signals and YOU ignored HER!

Talk to her, it'll work out or not, just go for it!

Good luck!

Answer 10

uh.... talk to her. thats what you said you going to do right? Maybe she's ignoring you because she's sad that you dnon't seem to like her. You don't have to be all sappy or anything just talk about simple, or randome stuff and you'll probablyy be able to see if she's into it.