Wasting LiFe??

Question

Ok so im in high school now(sophmore) and im really trying to do good in school, on my grades and i also want to get a job to help pay for my out of state tuition college fee. I DONT party or have a boyfriend, i dont really want one either. is that BAD?? like alot of people say thats just waisting your life( not having a bf or doing much) But theres plenty of that when you go to college RIGHT?? is it bad what im doing? im trying to do good in school and work to get money, i mean, i still go to ALL of the activities our school has with friends( sport games, pep assemblys etc...)

Answer 1

I am a senior in college, and I was just going through your situation not that long ago. Here are a few things to consider.
1. Are you putting your life on hold until you get to college? If there are things that you really WANT to do, do it to some degree now. Otherwise you'll go crazy when you get to college.

2. You don't have to be like everyone else. Many people are getting crap boyfriends (or even good ones) and partying because they think it speaks about their value as a person. Ex. if they get invited to a lot of parties and a lot of guys want to date them, they're worth more. That's not true. If you've discovered that that's not true, that could be why you don't care about this stuff that a lot of girls in high school are worrying about.

3. If that's not the point of your life, than what is? This is really something worth thinking about. I thought about it a lot in high school and decided that the point of my life was to love Christ and follow him. to be honest, it's made my life worth living. If you're pouring your time into your school because that's the point of you life, then take a step back and look at that. Will that give you the satisfaction you're looking for.

It sounds like you've got a great head on your shoulders, and you're doing great to look at your life and wonder about it every once in a while. :)

Answer 2

NO NO NO!!! you are not wasting you're life. i was the same way. it is not bad at all. i am in college now and i am still without a boyfriend. think about it. if you had a boyfriend, would you be able to do and enjoy all the things you do now? people make a big deal out of other people not going to parties here in college and not getting drunk and stuff, but once you think about it, if you do all of that, you will be wasting you're life. why spend time partying or just sitting around getting high when you could be using that time to learn as much about everything as you can. yes i love guys, im not gay. i just know that if i had a boyfriend now that i would not have been able to accomplish what i have so far.

Answer 3

I really wish I got to know you. You are focused. Work hard on your Grades and your work is more important than wasting time with a BF. You are right that there is plenty of that in College. You are doing very well do not be bothered if they tell you otherwise. Fantastic, you are doing all the activities in school. Carry on and have a great time I wish more Girls would follow you so there would be less heart breaks and a host of other problems

Answer 4

You need to do what feels right to you. Other people will always have some sort of opinion of what you should or shouldn't be doing. You just need to listen, and then you can walk away and think "whatever" to yourself. Sounds like you have a plan, and there is nothing wrong with that. I would think that is something to be proud of. Just remember that things don't always go as planned. A guy could come along and you could want a boyfriend at some point. You could experiment or party, but it doesn't have to control your life (it could be just a blip or your radar, or chalk it up to bad judgment). Just keep your sights set on what you want and if you don't like what you hear, either speak up or let it go in one ear and out the other. You have your whole life ahead of you and you don't need to cram it all in before you go off to college. Just go with the flow and do what you need to do to hit your goals. Good luck!!!

Answer 5

Don't worry about what other people think. They're doing the peer pressure thing. You're ignoring their pressure and doing what is right for YOU. As long as you aren't being reclusive, which it doesn't sound like you are being, then you're fine. I think it is great that you are trying to better your life through school and work instead of dragging yourself down before you have a chance to experience real life outside of high school. Just don't get so bogged down in the everyday grind of school and work that you forget to have fun. Good luck!

Answer 6

Good for you! You've gotten your priorities straight about twenty years earlier than most others do. I couldn't be prouder of you. You're absolutely right not to want a boyfriend. I don't want one, either (I'm also focusing on school in a big way), and I couldn't be happier. You're living exactly the way I intend to live.

Answer 7

I just want to say that i envy you. don't fall for what they tell you, Live your life, accomplish your goals, and then once you get to where you need to be, then you can worry about the whole boyfriend thing. YOU ARE THE FIRST TEEN I SEE ON THIS SITE THAT HAS HER HEAD ON STRAIGHT!!!! keep doing what you're doing, and you will go places. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 8

Hell no, whats wrong with taking care of business, before you have fun, I can't see anything wrong with it, I'm single and I've dedicated my life to buying my home, car, etc. and have paid it all off, see, I wanted to have everything done, so when I do meet a lady, I'll be ready.

Answer 9

you have the rest of your life for party's and boyfriends, you have a wonderful plan stick to it you will never be sorry. Bless you

Answer 10

Sounds okay to me. Oh do they mean you are wasting your life not poisoning yourself with alcohol & drugs, sleeping with guys you don't like and drivng in stolen cars......you are not a hermit, don't take notice of them.