During the summer I started working at the movies and I met this really cute guy. I was really feeling him but scared of being rejected. Long story short he was feelin me to and on my last day at the job he asked me to a movie. It was so left field I thought he was joking. We got close and the first night on the phone we talked till like four the next morning. I gave my parents play by play info so they'd be clued in. So one day he was suppose to come to church but since he doesn't have a car and his mom was going some where else, I asked my dad to go get him and he was like no. Then they started using that against him. Then my moms went to the theater where I use to work and found out he had braids. All of a sudden she was against him. When b4 he was the best thing since sliced bread. Anyway we've been sneaking for about 5months but I don't wanna anymore. All I get is phone calls. So I called and left an irate msg on his machine. I think I broke his heart. What should I do?
2006-10-29 12:44:17 · 11 answers · asked by Muffin Cakes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm seventeen turning 18 and he's 18.
2006-10-29 12:53:42 · update #1
I only left the msg cuz I was tired of sneaking around. We never could see each other and my parents were making their displeasure known. We haven't broken up officially but I toldhim that I couldn't sneak anymore. I love him and I can't contain it anymore.
2006-10-29 12:58:08 · update #2
Situation sounds similar to one I went through when I met my husband years ago (I was a teenager, parents hated him, and we snuck around for months). You just have to figure out what is more important here. Do you want your parents approval? That would be the easy route. Or do you want this guy and is it something that will be serious a long time down the road. If this is just a summer thing, and you broke up, and you can't see being together years from now, just move on. However if you two are really serious, then you need to be up front with your parents. They might not approve, but at least the truth will be told and you can try to make it work from there. Good luck, I picked the guy and my life was hell with my parents till I moved out with him and now we are married. They still don't necessarily "like" him, but they realize now we were serious and the do put up with him and treat him well despite the past. You just have to make a choice!!!
2006-10-29 12:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is good you don't want to sneak anymore.
but girl you are 18! come on! ur parents can't control your life.
They may control you to do chores and fix dinner and wash dishes. But they can't control who you like. They take their job on the outside. Not all of the inside.
But think. If ur parents are going to stop you from seeing a guy then you can't learn anything from the world at all or even discover.
Life was made to us for a reason. So we can discover our own paths and lessons, morals, duties, and who we truley belong with.
But on the other hand it may come up to the point where you will have to choose between him and ur parents.
good luck.
2006-10-29 21:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by Cero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt an irate message broke his heart. Guys are not wired the same way we are. If he had done that to you, you would be heart broken. He's probably thinking right now that he likes you a lot, but he can't deal with the issue with your parents and he may not know if he wants to stay with it. And now, with that message, you have probably helped him make the decision.
2006-10-29 20:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first let him know that you want to still go out with him but you need to focus on getting your parents aproval... it would be better to do that then continue sneaking around... Then tell your parents that he makes you happy and remind them that they were young once too.. Whatever you do do don't say somthing stupid like, "I hate you and I'm running away with him..." and if you have already done that then you are S.O.L... LOL But let them know how much you like him and enjoy spending time with him....
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-29 20:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by May 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot tell your parents and stick up for your love, than this is not something you want to pursue. Leave the poor boy alone, and work on understanding your own feelings.
2006-10-29 20:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell your parents your still been seeing him. but that don't mean you have to stop. after all its your life and you only live it once. so enjoy ur time with whomever. and whats the big deal if he gots braids?
2006-10-29 20:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by fluffywuv101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yr parents are superfious cuz he has braids well you still should date him cuz your parents just don't want you to be with him
2006-10-29 20:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sapphire J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh? MOVE ON! ur parents are right actually, u must LISTEN to em!
2006-10-29 20:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he IS your ex for a reason!
2006-10-29 20:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by mouse3801 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, how old are you?
2006-10-29 20:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋