had raped her when she was a kid would you believe her? Shez never mensioned it b4, she was drunk when she said it and my father has never touched me in that way. I dont know what to think!!!
2006-10-29 12:30:21 · 9 answers · asked by genieejj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would take her seriously, but be skeptical. Many rape victims keep it deep inside herself due to shame that the rapist made them feel, especially when it is a family member. Be sure to convince her that you still love her and will always love her no matter what. Speak with your mom, maybe she has some insight. Good luck. I will pray for your relationship with your sister and her past!
2006-10-29 13:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by alicia0821 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not sever relationships with either father or sis.
But I would be extra careful from my father just to be safe myself.
But I will not hold either my father or sister resposible whether it happened or not.
Similarly I will not judge either one of them.
Nor will I try to punish them.
After all they are my family right ?
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Take Care,
and
Don't worry
And I know your father is not all that bad person.
I know that such a person would have never done such a thing.
I am 99.9999 % sure.
Besides a rapist person will try to take advantage of other daughter too. Which has never happened, right ?
So logically your father would not have done it.
I can't think of a rapist who would rape one girl / woman and would not attempt on the other when he has all the convenience to do so.
Logically such a thing is impossible.
Okay ?
So, your father did not do any such bad thing.
Your sis. was drunk when she told.
Please don't blame your sister also.
She is your family.
Okay ?
A piece of advice from a friend :
Just be a little more careful of men folks - all men
brothers, uncles, father, friends, enemies and strangers etc. etc.
For lust is sometimes bad.
So for your own sake take care of yourself.
2006-10-31 12:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by James 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would start by asking her about it when she was sober. Don't immediately discount her story but I would have some reservations about it. What is going on in her life that made her bring this up? If the story turns out to be false, she still is seeking your guidance or your "ear" for some reason. Good luck and I pray she just needs your attention.
2006-10-29 20:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by thislifeisnotforme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Some people only tell the truth when they're drunk. My mother does that. Usually when someone is drinking it is easier for them to talk about traumatic events that have happened to them no matter how long ago it was. Once she is sober, try and talk to her about it to see if she remembers saying that and if it is the truth.
2006-10-29 20:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by globalsoule 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would look for motive and try to decide if you have ever had an uncomfortable moment with your father that you suppressed. It seems that part of sexual abuse is denial and it causes you to supress the memory. I would ask my sister to seek counseling and see if it is an accurate memory for her or not. It may be something else.
2006-10-29 20:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by scratchyangel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be inclined to believe something happened...it depends on how old she was at the time, as to how good her memory may be.
Whether you believe her or not, be there for her if she needs to talk about it.
2006-10-29 20:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kaia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY ASK HER WHEN SHE'S SOBER.... And then, no matter what be there for her, she obviously is needing some sorta shoulder to lean on.
2006-10-29 21:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by lostone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would ask her again while she is not drunk
generally i would believe her if she has normal character
2006-10-29 20:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is probably true...
I would not say anything to anyone about it...
2006-10-29 20:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋