I went out with this guy for about 7 months, we knew each other for 2 years, and well I wasn't happy with him, he treated me real bad. One night at his house, his best friend went for a walk with me, and he kissed me, and after I broke up with my ex, he was there to talk with me. His best friend told me he cheated on me many times, and the first date we went on, well I had to tell him to lay off because it was obvious all he wanted from me was sex, I told him to put a stop to that and since then he's been ok and making me happy. My best friend tells me that i shouldn't go out with him, because he's only going to keep me involved in my ex's life, whose being a real jerk now since he learned im with his best friend. Well its safe to say they aren't best friends anymore.
I guess this is really 2 questions. one, am I his rebound girl, because he recently got out of a relationship to, and two, should I of went with my ex's best friend?
2006-10-29 12:20:05 · 6 answers · asked by Julia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've broken up with my ex around 5 weeks, we went on a first date the following week, where I had to tell him to lay off. He's been single now a few months, since summer.
2006-10-29 12:27:47 · update #1
not good.
2006-10-29 12:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've confused too many questions. The REAL question here, at this point, despite everything else, is whether you want to be with this new guy. Your previous bf treated you bad and is done with. I was initiatlly slightly concerned that this new guy was unloyal to his "best friend" but then when you said the guy treated you real bad to begin with and he was willing to risk his friendship for you, I think the real question is whether or not you think the guy might be worth at least going out on a few more dates and figuring out whether or not you want to date him. As far as the whole sex early on, you told him to cool it and he has ...which is a good thing....for both of you...Basically, what I am telling you is that if you feel in your heart that YOU want to go out with him, do it, but if not then go be single again. From what you said, I think you should probably go on at least one more date and ...my hope is that you both make it a really fun date...have fun
2006-10-29 12:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by kentclark_007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are free and he is free I don't see why the hesitation, your friend sounds as if she is seeing green. I don't see why you can't date, you have set the ground rules for sex and the guy is still interested, and treating you well, tell these two other buttinskies, to go soak their heads, you are not their concern any more.
2006-10-29 12:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by kaviar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, um...I would say wait a little longer to see what happens. You do not want to be the rebound girl!!! I think you could date him, just wait a few months.
2006-10-29 12:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by alwaysconfused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you should of never have went out with him. bc i mean it was your ex's BEST friend. and that friendship is detroyed now and if they do get back to being friends your ex is not going to be able to trust him the same bc his gonna always think he is going to take his girl from him. and if thats how he acted at first then yea i think your just his rebound girl. his not looking for a relationship if he just got out of one. take time sense you just got out of one also to yourself. but you shouldn't have went out with him.
2006-10-29 12:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_girl_snglnlokn2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both are the rebound. HOw long have they been split up and as long as yourenot the cause dont worrry about
2006-10-29 12:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋