I'm just wondering if guys find it to be a turnoff. I'm not a kid, I'm in my mid-twenties. I'm attractive, intelligent and motivated, good personality. But despite all this, would you not give me a chance because I have a child?
2006-10-29 12:19:05 · 11 answers · asked by CC 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I actually enjoy dating "mothers". We have something additional in common, (single parent trying to be a family), and possibly just MIGHT add to the whole "respect" issue.
2006-10-29 12:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by me here, where are you? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've had personal experiance with this so I'll give you the lowdown.
The girl I met sounded much like you. She was a beautiful mexican girl working in a restaurant with her mother and other beautiful sister. She was really fun to be around and I came VERY close to asking her out. So what stopped me you may be wondering?
A woman with a child is a package deal. There is no way I could have just had her without the child. Myself, I'm not fond of children, but I know that even if I was, that is a big responsibility to take in. Inevitably, the guy will have to have some responsibility over the child and helping to care for it. It also serves as a kind of limitation on the relationship. The woman's child comes #1 to her. Also it makes her slightly less flexible about doing things like spontanious trips, staying over, etc. The child immediately puts a label on the relationship that this is not for fooling around-its a serious thing. The guy HAS to love both the woman and child, not only one.
I think as you get older and men become more ready to settle down, then you will have an easier time finding a guy who doesn't mind the child, but when a guy is young, the restrictions and responsibilities are often a turn off to him.
I'm sure you're a wonderful person though and that you'll find a guy who will love you AND your child both!
2006-10-29 12:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by b-rad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am personally turned off because it is more baggage than I want to deal with. I don't particularly want kids of my own. If the father is a good guy, he may also still be around - meaning he is somehow remotely a part of your life. If he is not around, then he may be some kind of deadbeat, and would not think of raising a deadbeat's kids.
Hmm, very difficult although you might be a great person. this is just a "situation" which stays with you until the child is grown and out of the house.
2006-10-29 12:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, for me, it would be a slight turnoff. However, just because you have a kid doesn't mean that it takes away from your personaility any. I would not judge you by whether or not you have a kid or not, for that is stereotyping. I and most other men would definitely give you a chance.
2006-10-29 12:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by oprah_norris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man usually makes the first move. Even if she’s interested in you, the most she’s likely to do is to stand near you or make eye contact a couple times to encourage you to approach her. Read here https://tr.im/1jpwv
Once you see her, don’t hesitate. 10 minutes from now she might not be there or another guy might have beaten you to the punch. Plus, women can tell when you’re working up the courage to approach. Shyness might be endearing in movies and romance novels, but it doesn’t work in the real world. Approach right away, even if you don’t know what you’re going to say
2016-05-19 01:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by frances 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think all guys are of the same mind on this question. For me it would be about you and not about your child or children. I happen to think kids are great, they are our future, but my interest would be with you. My advice is to not worry about it and be yourself. The right guy will like you and your child. Good luck.
2006-10-29 12:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to discover ways to create greater bonds and develop more significant relationships with girls, then that https://tr.im/D48kR is worth examining out.
Tao of Badass is a good guide if you want a greater comprehension of why women are attracted to strong, comfortable men.
Tao of Badass covers lots of the key concepts that are important to increasing your success with women. Explains crucial topics such as why girls test guys and the significance of sexuality jobs actually well.
It also offer strong info on creating rapport and connections with women and has lots of additional content in the members section.
2016-05-02 10:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys would, because most women your age have kids anyway. sad, but true.
as a matter of fact, most girls MY age (im 20) have children that are fatherless.
2006-10-29 12:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Little Black Riding Hood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would give you a chance -- i have grown children and grandchildren and i am taken LOL
having a child would not be a disincentive
2006-10-29 12:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell im not old enough to be dating(im only 15 to somepeople thats would be just wrong...but not to me) you but i do know that if i was dating someone with a kid it wouldnt change anything as long as i truly liked her. so only selfe centerd little dumbass punks wound dump you just for having a kid
2006-10-29 12:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by n8tive_b0y071 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋