well i had been hurt my a close relative and now i have the chance to try at it, i dont want to get hurt again because i just cant handle it but im afraid that im just running and trying to save myself from the risk of getting hurt. i am also scared that if i totally break off anything that i will regreat it in years to come. ( im only a teenager), if you can help me please any advice is accepted.
2006-10-29 12:01:08 · 9 answers · asked by lizzy r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that family is all we have out there, even though somtimes our families can hurt us I think we always need to try to make the best of it! I've been in so many family disputes with my close family, with my farthest family and I always find a way to forgive those closest to me! I think you should always take up the opportunity to mend old wounds, and be the better person. You are a young adult and have the rest of your life ahead of you, dont live your life full of hatred or remorse to somone close to you. If they dont feel the same the only thing I can tell you is pray for that person's soul. GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS!
2006-10-29 12:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends! Has this person changed or is everything still the same?
Was it a physical or sexual "hurt"?? No, way do you put yourself out there for more!!!!
Was it just a misunderstanding?? Give it another try!
Was it manipulation, control, etc....?? That's up to you. Do you really want to be in that situation again?
Did you have a good time being around this person? Have you missed the relationship??? If so, then definitely give it another chance.
If you already know deep down in your gut that you are just setting yourself up for another "hurt" then just step back and give it some more time.
What's motivating you to try to restore a relationship? Guilt? Don't do it. Fear? What are you afraid of? Genuine Love and concern? Go for it.
Some questions to ask yourself: Will I benefit from restoring the relationship? Was the relationship healthy for me? Am I happier without this person in my life?
Your answers to these questions will tell you what to do.
2006-10-29 20:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by dixiemade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be the better person and try to reconcile with this family member. Mending a relationship between you and a very close family member is worth the try and if it doesn't work out, you can say to yourself at least I tried my best. There is nothing worse than carrying around any guilt of I wished I had, why didn't I, how silly I was not to, the rest of your life without giving it all you have. I would make the attempt, you won't regret it, and just remember, you are the better person for initiating it.
2006-10-29 20:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering what this person did. If this relative hurt you physically in any way, I'd say never talk to him/her ever. People were not put on this earth to be injured physically. If it was just an argument or disagreement, I'd say give it a try. If it fails this time, I'd give in a few years before trying it again. A family is the most important thing in this world. Having said that, if you were raped or something like that, never speak to this person again. You have to be the judge if his/her action was serious enough for you to completely cut ties. Misunderstandings are almost always blown out of proportion. You need to be the judge.
2006-10-29 20:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of depends on how bad the hurt was and who was the original cause, did you do or say something that brought on this hurt ? Recently my cousin stole from me, I had a witness and when I confronted her with it, she got mad, cursed me out and told me I was no longer part of her family. I forgave her for her actions, but will not try to gain her back as a family member, I feel it is up to her to make any advances to regaining my membership in her family, after all, I still have my family,
2006-10-29 20:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lkewrmwtr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time helps all situations. One thing I have learned is, if the answer is not clear, there is no hurry. Just watch and let time pass while the answer begins to present itself to you. Some of the worst decisions I have made in my whole life were made when I was panicked and thinking I had to act NOW. We all are entitled to take the time necessary to make good decisions. The person you are in conflict with will be there weeks or even months from now, when the picture is clearer to you.
2006-10-29 20:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Pluralgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a balance and decide if it is really worth to connect to this family member again and if you decide you do try to not get very involved , it is just a way to protect yourself and this family member will have to respect that, time heals all wounds but you need time too. Good luck.
2006-10-29 20:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Firelei P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whats going on but i think you should always try to fix any problems you may have with family. Just be careful with what you do with that person.
2006-10-29 20:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lola C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how that person hurt you. you have to find out if it is something you can forgive. take things slow and have a long talk with your relative.
2006-10-29 20:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋