My best friend Matt and me have been trhough alot over the 4 years we have known each other. When we first meet he had a huge crush on me, and this lasted until last year when he started dating another girl. I liked him too through this whole thing, but I had just gotten out of a really bad relationship and wasnt ready for another. And through all the fights we had we have stayed real close. Well 3 weeks ago he kissed me (He broke up with that other girl already), and not once it was a make out seccion. And we talked about us and you know the whole dating thing, and he called me his gf and everything. Two days later he says never mind and just wants to be friends... wierd? So I dont know what to do. And he is avioding me like no tommorrow. What do I do?
2006-10-29 11:58:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hm... it can be seen in two ways: he likes you still and wants you to think that he is not desperate not like 3 years ago or he thought he found out more about you and changed his mind.
But Ireally can't see how he could change his mind. He called you his girlfriend, right? He kissed you? It was some ort of a date?
It is weird for him act like that but may be he trying to look as he is not desperate or he trying to make you feel same way you made him feel. Because 3 years ago you probably shown him that you liked him but than you did same thing, that you not ready for him being your bf.
So, it could be a little revenge may be. But don't take it seriously, give some time. And if you are friends as you are saying, just ask him why he is avoiding you. He must have a reason.
It depends on the person really. But to me it seems like he still likes you.
Hpe everything works out for you two, Wolfy.
P.S. When you talk to him tell him that you really liked him 3 years all the way, he MUST know it. If you will keep it to yourself he will probably think that you did not like him all these years and jyst felt as he have been a pain in the ***. Tell him honestly how you felt.
2006-10-29 12:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by lone_wolf_time_to_change 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummz, i think that matt thinks that maybe he kind of forced you into everything, therefore he is sorta backing out. Now he feels bad about what happened and is avoiding you. You should re-assure him about what he did, say it wasnt his fault and start on that. Do you want to be friends with him or more? You should let him know at this point, and if its just friends then yeah stay close and stuff, be good to each other yah? but if its more then friends you need to let him know asap i guess. Coz frm wat i can tell he sounds like a good bloke and good blokes are hard to find unfortunately. So maybe think twice about what you really want and even though you might not be ready for another relationship, maybe he is the one that can help you overcome and prepare yourself for a even better relationship then before. I know it seems hard sometimes but remember one thing, be there for him so he knows it and everything should be ok. alrighty, peace out
2006-10-29 12:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably confused and doesn't know how to feel, that's why he's avoiding you. Give him some time and space then casually try to warm up to him but don't be to agressive ...don't ask him questions like "where the two of you are going" and "how does he feel about you" right away because he obviously doesn't have any answers yet. You mentioned he's your best friend...so you share a strong bond and trust to eachother so it's easy to want to go down that path. But speaking by personal experience, remember once you open that door it's hard to turn back. I now follow the #1 rule: Don't date your friends! But that's just me...I'm not saying it couldn't work.. just be careful and aware of any consequences.
2006-10-29 12:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is confused. Perhaps he doesn't want to risk losing a good friend if you two don't work out in the end. If you really cherish your relationship with him regardless of wanting to be his girlfriend or jus great friend, you should have a good talk with him. Maybe he is going back to his ex? Or maybe he is jus fooling around?
2006-10-29 12:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by tofu girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to have a hardcore conversation about everything before the situation becomes more wierd and you lose your friendship. The longer you wait, the harder it will be. Act fast... I promise you wont be sorry!
2006-10-29 12:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Steven S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him about it...if he tries to avoid you more dont let him...just go up to him ask him wats goin on and dont let him leave until you guys sort the whole thing out! mixed and confused feelings are not something you should have it only makes everything complicated trust me!...good luck!
2006-10-29 12:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jesika C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably has mixed up feelings, form being friends for so long and then starting a relationship. leave him alone for now and in time he will come open to you and talk about your relationship.
2006-10-29 12:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by luvsunshine0318 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your friend is unsure I'd say put him on the back burner until his intentions are clear.
2006-10-29 12:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by Muffin Cakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your distance from him for awhile. If he has you to lean on in tight spots, he will keep using it to his advantage.
He needs time away from you and even he doesn't realize it.
2006-10-29 12:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax and be friends if he wants to be-but put Jesus first-you wont feel rejected-or worried-with amazing grace that saves from all sins :D
2006-10-29 12:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋