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I have a girlfriend who I have lived with for 3 years, we get along good half ot the time, the other times im either stressed out from her or I find myself looking at other girls. She loves me alot and I am not sure if I do as well, I am kinf of a fun guy who is very social while she is the opposite. I don't know if this relationship can last to marriage since our personalities don't really match. Should I try and work it out or end it?

2006-10-29 11:48:07 · 6 answers · asked by otp12 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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your not sure if you love her. that's probably the big thing, because that's what carries you through the other stuff. seeing other girls and things. she's not too fun or social??? i think it's normal to have trouble after 3 years, it's wether you wanna work at it or not. you would probably find it easier with someone more like you. it's up to you, good luck honey

2006-10-29 11:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I don't think it's such a bad thing that your personalities don't match. I'm also not saying "opposites attract" because that's an overstatement. Sometimes you need that kind of balance to make a relationship work. You're sociable when she's not. That isn't such a bad thing, because you can't have 2 people in a relationship who constantly talk, and before you know it you'll be at each other's throats. It's kinda the Ying Yang if you know what I mean.

There are a lot of other things to consider too. You cannot base your decision on just the talkative or non-talkative aspect of you two. There are more important things like will she be able to take care of you, like cooking, house work, etc. Being sociable or not that's something you can always learn. Take her out to social events with your friends and get her to mingle. It's really a simple fix.

2006-10-29 19:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by ♥iamsleepy♥ 4 · 0 0

If your personalities are that different you should find somone else who has a bit more of a back bone and fun side. Really if you don't enjoy her company anymore why are you hurting yourself by staying with her? Though if you do decide to break up with her, go easy on her. I mean she obviously still loves you even if you don't love her back. On the other hand, if you really want it to work, then work through it. Although it sounds to me like you need to find someone else more amiable if you're that much of a social guy.

2006-10-29 19:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by ~peace 1 · 0 0

Dude! You should've had the balls to ask yourself this question BEFORE you moved in together. You never noticed the lack of personality before? Or is it, now that you've achieved her...you think you can do better? Do the girl a favor and break it off....you are just not ready. And that is perfectly OK....as long as you aren't keeping someone else's hopes alive.

2006-10-29 19:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by pullmytriggerthenblamemygun 2 · 0 0

I think the relationship is worth saving. Try and remember the things that you do like about her and just work on the rest. Three years is a long time to just throw away.

2006-10-29 19:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0 0

Don't know that the problem is your girlfriend, dude. You need to do some self-reflection in what you really want out of life and your relationships and then have some conversation with her. Maybe counseling, if you still need help figuring out where you're at.

2006-10-29 19:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by gerardw 2 · 0 0

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