My Heart is Broken, how do I make this feeling go? How can I make myself stop thinking of him?

Question

My boyfriend and I have dated for a year and a half, however the last 2 months or so have been different, he hadn't been putting as much into the relationship as he used to. Then yesterday he said he couldn't do it anymore, that this isn't what he wanted anymore. This news killed me, Im all torn apart inside. I cant make it stop and everything I see seems to somehow make me think of him. Now I already know he's hanging out with other girls and stuff and its driving me crazy. How do I make the hurt stop and how do I stop thinking about him? Please help me!

Answer 1

This is what you do. Pick the saddest songs you could ever think of and play them as loud as you can. Lock your room and lay in bed and feel really, really, bad and make yourself cry as hard as you can. Then look in the mirror. This is really hard to do but you end up killing two birds with one stone. First, it releases the pain, second, by looking in the mirror, you should start to realize, why you're crying for someone who isn't that into you. Do this for one good day. After that, don't allow yourself to dwell on this anymore. Why? Because life's too short.

Also, him hanging out with other girls, that's a guy thing. I wouldn't take that personal. Men can do that. Where most women feel the pain head on. Trust me, after you do what I suggested you'll feel like alot of weight's been lifted. Then when he's ready to come back to you, remember what you had to go through to get over him and ask yourself two questions; do you really want to be with someone who put you through that? and would you be willing to go through that again.

Answer 2

I'm in this same situation so I totally understand where you're coming from. Just live for you now. I know it hurts like hell and the only time you really think you think about him right. Just find yourself some cool guys to hang with. Concentrate solely on bettering yourself and try not to do too many things that bring him back up. Get a hobby girl plain and simple Get a NEW LIFE!! ( And I mean that as motivational as possible) Good Luck

Answer 3

I can relate to this feeling. Try not to see him as much if you can help it. It might just spring foward painful memories that you just can't handle. you're in a fragile state and friends don't call me Dr. Phil for nothing.

Try to hang out with your friends and keep yourself busy if you're more of a social person. Plan a night out or see a movie, buy a tub of your favorite ice cream and talk it all out with your friends. They're always there for you and know you alot better than i can from your question, so they can advise you based on your personality and needs. If everything you see reminds you of him, do somethig new, get involved in a club, do a sport if you aren't already, go volunteer, it feels good to know you're helping the community.

If you tend to be more to yourself, especially in tragic situations, expressing in writing helps, it gets all that emotion out without the whole world intruding on your personal life. Whether it be a journal, poem, story or lyrics. Reading helps the mind relax, and foscusing on the problems of another person's life just may make you feel like you're just that much luckier than they are. Take a bath, listen to music, sing the songs out, play games, go running, just be sure to keep active.

You're going to think of him time to time. So don't feel guilty if you do think of him. You just got out of a relationship so thinking of the other person is absolutely normal. So while you're grieving, keeping yourself happy in other ways that a broken relationship can't will do you some good for yourself.

And last of all, cry. It doesn't do any good to keep it ALL in.
Crying will help you get over it so that eventually you won't have to anymore. And you won't run into a embarrassing moment where you see him with another girl and burst into tears right there in public.


Hope this helps a bit. =]

Answer 4

i'm sorry on your loss , and that i want i might inform you how , nonetheless noone has an distinctive asnwer we will best advisor you or aid you with endorse of matters that can won't have helped us besides i do understand how you believe so do such a lot people on right here , with out sounding cliche Time thats the one factor , however you ought to appreciate that you just deserve bigger , from the sound of this you could have discovered that it was once heading this fashion and didnt wish to peer it as now he has moved on and also you havent but , you're on one more timetable and when you become aware of this and plenty of different self discoveries you are going to be equipped to transport on , don't combat it be given for what it's , don't down your self , dangle together with your freinds , speak , cry giggle , ( in anything order you prefer ) and anything you do dont stop ! recognise there willl be any person else and optimistically bettter to Love you !

Answer 5

ok well I went through a break up with my now fiance after we where together for almost 4 and a half years. I know this wont help that much but time will heal..plus do like the person above me said you must keep busy,hang out with friends, im not sure how old you are but if your in school consintrate on school...plus there are way to many nice guys out there that will treat you like a princess..you gotta think if he wasnt happy there must have been something not going right anymore and why would you wanna put your self throw pain..he acually did you a favor...dont worry sweety it will get easyer...BIG HUG:)

Answer 6

Only time can truly heal you...but in the mean time, pick yourself up, get dressed and go to the mall, movies, library, or some where public. Meet other people (preferably a guy). This will help you cope because your mind won't be totally on him. I'm not saying to get into another relationship, just meet someone that you can talk to. Be honest with that person and tell them that you are just getting out of a relationship and you need to make new friends to help you "keep your sanity". Do this and I promise, it will get better.

Answer 7

This must be your first heart break. Sucks doesn't it. Well sweetie, it's gonna happen about 20 more times before you get married. The only way to deal with it is occupy your time. Delete his IM, phone numbers, email address, and tear up any letters you have. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him, and just try to move on. It's ok to cry. I still cry over some of my ex's. It's totally nomal and it helps deal with the pain. Just stay strong and remember that you can't appreciate the good without the bad.

Answer 8

this type of thing is normal,its every day stuff but,i know how u feel,same thing happened 2 me.it will take a while 2 get over him.but let your heart break,sob 2 your friends,cry your eyes out.and u know what.IT'S HIS LOSS,not your,he is the freak,he won't know what 2 do with out.it does hurt really bad,but one day u will find a man that will love u.just tell your self that i can get through this.it may be a while,but just remember that it is his loss.and pray every night.i wish the best 4 u.

Answer 9

like they say , there is no sense in crying over spilled milk, and its a waste of precious time moping around for something that is already lose try to go out and have a good time with your friends and don't even think of him as much as you are doing it now, don't expect or in a hurry that you will forget the relationship that fast, only time heal all wounds, and as time goes so does the wound. don't be alone, try to keep yourself busy, keep yourself as beautiful as you ever be, take care of yourself physically and emotionally and things are going to be alright infact better than it is. good luck!

Answer 10

I feel for ya, girl! I was with a guy for a year and a half, living with him, and he told me one day that he was in love with someone else.......I left and before I knew it he was living with her. Talk about getting your heart ripped out while being stabbed in the back..........

But anyways, it will get easier.........I promise.......try to stay occupied and take up a hobby.....join a karate class, join a gym, do anything you can to keep your mind occupied. Make sure to allow yourself to grieve the relationship too, though......

Good luck and just know you're not alone.........hang in there!!!!!! xoxo