How long would you ground your child if your child lied to you?

Question

She's 16. She lied about where she was going.

Answer 1

First, I would sit her down and ask her why she lied. Then tell her I will not tolerate lies for her own safety, especially about lying about where she was going to be, She could put herself in a lot of danger because we wouldn't know where she was if she needed help. I would ground her for a weekend making her clean the house and not being able to talk to her friends or do anything else. If the lies continue, I would increase the time of grounding. I don't believe in spanking. It only made me angry but grounding worked.

Answer 2

That all depends on the childs age, and if lying was a frequent problem...

If my child lied at 3-4 (an age most kids start lying) I would give them a time out and explain that lying is wrong and tell them a tame verison of "The boy who cried wolf"..

However if my child was older say 9-10 and told a lie I would likely ground them 2 days and we would have a more indepth discussion about what a lie is why it is wrong and how lying can and does hurt them and others...

As a child matures the consequence for misbehavior increases... Putting a 13 yr old in time-out doesn't have the same impact as removing thier Ipod..

Answer 3

Well before you can ground a child, you must first see why they lied, by all means lying is not good.. But then you have to look at the lie, and see if you lied about the same thing, and then try and remember what your parents did, when you lied..Also i feel like taking the T.V. and things like that don't work, they have them in Library's now and so that wont work

Answer 4

some time youngsters get previous the element the place grounding bothers them. that's like, oh properly, this might pass and that i will flow back to doing what i became doing previously. I propose you maintain up the controlling what and the place he is going and what he does. I additionally propose you and the family contributors get into counsling, quickly. he's performing out and you're able to desire to be certain why. Or this might worsen. For him and for you . If he sees no issue steeling 20 thousand from you what's going to he do next.? Is he the right age to stress.? Does he have an after college interest.? If no interest then i might locate issues for him to do the minute he comes homestead to the minute he is going to sleep. An after college instruct, Making him artwork for unfastened at an previous age homestead. Making him get a factor time interest any the place he can. yet nonetheless giving him an alowance with the money he makes at artwork mutually as putting the rest interior the financial corporation. this might provide him a objective different then stealing. good luck and bear in mind the counsling theory if no longer the rest. whilst he ever ask for a vehicle tell him very top which you're able to have been waiting to purchase him a vehicle yet he stole the flexibility so you might purchase it with the money stole. do no longer say it back and back back or it to gets previous and end being a punishment. Make him purchase his very own vehicle. Or a minimum of pay for many of it. while you're interior the state you as a be certain could make him placed on an ankle computer screen, you will discover that he's on homestead arrest without entering into front of a decide. At that age maximum childrens will misinform god regardless of if caught. i think of that's hormonal.

Answer 5

It really depends on the age of the child & the reason they lied in the first place. Our son is 10 & he hasn't lied to us since he was 6. That being said, when asked why he lied, the reason he gave was fear of getting into trouble. We resolved this by explaining to him that he would always be in more trouble if he lied. That he may not be in any trouble as long as he told the truth. We stuck to this arrangement. Did that mean that he never gets into trouble? No. It's just that He knows that it will always be worse if he lies.

Answer 6

It does not depend on the age or lie...a lie is a lie and when I ground I usually ground for the weekend. Sounds harsh but it works. My boys will have to do their chores and what ever I ask but their privilage is taken away like t.v., video games, outside play. After the grounding we sit down and talk about why they lied and review future consequenses should it happen again. It's better than spanking because that they could get over but grounding to them "sucks".

Answer 7

It depends. Did she lie because she was doing something illegal or immoral? or was she being a typical teenager and wanted to go to Betsy's house where there was a "party"? If she did something really bad, I would ground for a month. And by grounding I mean, no going anywhere without Mom, no phone, no computer. If she was really bad, you could also remove her bedroom door from its hinges, thereby giving her no privacy. You have it look at it this way - if you want her to learn a lesson, she has to "miss" something during the grounding. If you ground her for a week, but nothing was going on that week and she had no plans anyway - she won't care.

Answer 8

Depends on what the child has done...different punishment for every time child gets in trouble keeps the child surprised at the punishment but ends up respecting the parents for it...I have found that sending a child to room doesn't work when they have a television, PlayStation. PC, and phone in their room doesn't seem to take the punishment too serious if child is always sent to room.

Answer 9

It depends on the lie, the damage it caused and the number of times this was.

Ground her from whatever the lie dealt with. For example, if she lied about being out somewhere, ground her to the house. You know your own child. Make it count though.

Answer 10

It would depend on the severity of the lie. If it is one of the first ones you have caught your child lying then, make the punishment as severe as you can stand. Reason being that you want to set the standard. You want to be able to show that you will follow through on that extreme punishment without questioning it. Keep that up for the first few times, and if it continues in a short span of time, step it up. If it has been awhile have a discussion about it and then set the punishment.

During some of my educational preparation I went through a program that taught us how to deal with children. When they are doing something you are not happy with you ask, "What are you doing?" The reply with the exact behavior, you reply, "What are you supposed to be doing?" They reply with the desired behavior. Next, "What are you going to do about it?" They reply with the correction. Finally, "What do you think should happen if you do this again?" They set the consequence, with your approval. this way they learn the responsiblity of their own choices. It usually works great with lots of follow through!