Im a bridesmaid in my sisters wedding. I think the price of her wedding is going to be $40,000. There doing 5 hr open bar, lots of fancy food, dinner rehearsal, etc.
Im having a baby 6 month before the wedding so my boyfriend and i will be tight on money.
Do you think $200 is a good amount? I dont want to be cheap
2006-10-29 11:20:48 · 15 answers · asked by Nosugarcoating 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No our parents arnt paying for her wedding or mine because they passed away. Her fiancees parents are helping them out with it
2006-10-29 11:29:27 · update #1
Honestly, $50 is enough.
There really is no set amount.
We received $20 from a friend that we knew were tight on money, and we were so thankful that she would even think of giving us anything.
We also received $25 from a family member who could have given more.
Either way, it's what you feel is appropriate. Don't be fooled by the cost of her wedding--she's your sister, and sisters will always understand.
It won't be cheap to be honest with yourself and your family.
2006-10-29 12:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all they spend what they choose to on a wedding and they shouldn't expect more expensive things because THEY decided to spend more on THEIR wedding. But just so you know, I don't neccessarily agree with everyone else that $200 is a whole lot of money on a gift when 1. it's your sister & 2. you're the bridesmaid. When accepting the role as bridesmaid you sort of took on a whole huge role all together and part of that is having a sentimental great gift for your SISTER. She's not just a friend you went to school with or anything. It also sounds like you have ample time to save or shop for a great gift at a discounted price. Don't take this the wrong way or anything...I am a mother of 3 and the oldest of 4 children, and I still feel that whenever one of my siblings get married, I will go above and beyond to give them a great gift. Remember, she will only get married once. (hopefully) Good luck and start saving and/or shopping around :)
2006-10-29 11:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What the bride and groom (or their parents) spent on the wedding has no bearing whatsoever on how much is an appropriate gift. Neither is the price of the meal.
To me, $200 is alot to spend, especially if money is as tight as you say.
I personally never give cash gifts and I'm not about to start. However the price of the gift depends on what I can afford and how close I am to the bride and groom. However I refuse to go broke or into debt paying for a gift no matter who it is for.
2006-10-29 15:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
$200
2006-10-29 12:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually give $300.00. This usually cover me and my guest plates. I live in New york so I know from planning for my wedding that some plates start at $100. And thats considered a deal here. Im spending $117.00 per plate. Its crazy nothing is cheap anymore. I gave my brohter $500.00 for his wedding. But if $200 is all you can afford then your sister should understand. Good luck with your Baby! :)
2006-10-30 00:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by SO In LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy crap! $40,000!! My wedding cost maybe $500....and for a gift, most times people just buy something off the register...ok I gotta know who is footing the bill for the wedding??? And if it's your parents, then are they gonna spend that much on your wedding? I'm sorry of this sounds harsh but good grief that's a lot of money that could better used on a down payment on a house.
2006-10-29 11:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
$200 is a lot, in my opinion. I just got married in May, and my sisters spent about $50 for our gift. When I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding this year, I gave them $40.
2006-10-29 11:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Again, if people choose to pick expensive vendors it's not your problem.
$200 seems like a lot considering your bridemaid expenses as well. However, some people feel the need to throw some money at a situation to make it all better.
2006-10-29 11:50:17 · answer #8 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get toooo worried about this stuff. $200.00 is more than fine....and if that is going to leave you a little short then make it what ever you can WITHOUT affecting your budget. I am sure your sister knows that money is going to be tight for you with the baby coming...and she may feel bad if she knows that the money you give to her is going to be a problem for you guys.
2006-10-29 12:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your shoes, I would do what I could afford. You can't spend your life keeping up with the Joneses, or you will be broke your whole life. If your sister doesn't understand (but she probably will) that's too bad. You have your own bills to pay, and money to budget. Do what you feel comfortable with, within your budget. But be beside her, and wish her the best.
2006-10-29 11:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋