Now that we have buried our baby Amber who died of the effects of the Strepococous B virus.Ther seems to be nothing left to live for.Engulfed in a painfull emptiness.sitting at the graveside, It seems that even God has abandoned us.
All the advise we seem to be getting is "keep praying" ...Go for councilling.
What recourse do we have. ?
Does someone need to be held responsible for this.?
Could the hospital be brought to book for not for not taking the necessary steps to ensure baby was immunised.
2006-10-29 11:06:37 · 19 answers · asked by Roy S 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't know you, Roy, but your words touch my heart. I am so sorry for your loss.
Please get a lawyer to investigate, if they find there was some fault, then it may ease your pain in some degree to know it may help another family from going through this. If they find no fault, it may help in the closure process to know that it wasn't anyone's fault.
Telling you to have faith at this point will only seem ironic, because we cannot understand why.
The only thing that will really help is time, and talking to someone who can give you some tools to help deal with the grief process.
2006-10-29 11:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should contact a lawyer and place on record what has happened. Then take a step back. Only proceed with an action once your emotions have settled and you are strong enough to face it. I say this because throughout any action you will have to relive every moment again and again and the end result could be that no-one is actually found liable, so you would have gone through all that trauma for nothing. You may decide that actually it's best to let your baby rest in peace., but you will need time to come to that decision
2006-10-30 05:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by muttsnutts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the hospital should be to blame. But talk to a lawyer to get more information on the legal recourse. This will at least give you some answers even though it will not give you the closure you desire. Losing a child is difficult no matter what the cause and sometimes there is no reason.
Cry as much as you need. Grief counseling through the local hospice will help. Those people are angels in disguise. They are there to help families through the grieving process.
2006-10-29 19:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by mellijenk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know Amber isnt with you now but you were her dad so channel your energy and get out there and fight for her. Find out all you can about strep b so that when you talk to people who try and fob you off you can hold your own in a debate. look into the hospitas records and mortality rates. If you can't do this on your own maybe a friend could help you. I'm not suggesting this out of anger or revenge but I feel you really do need some answers. If you are in England try the citizens advice bureau, they will direct you on the right course of action. Lastly you may need a solicitor, and also friends and family and your wife. Take care, thinking of you
2006-10-29 19:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by ann.inspain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry....I can't imagine what you must be going through.
The citizens advise beuro may be able to point you in the right direction legally and where you may stand on the matter - they are very helpful.
I can't blame you for feeling angry....I think it's all part of the healing process and is perfectly normal.....sometimes we just need an answer when someone so special is taken from us...it just feels so wrong....
Please go for counselling, it certainly won't do you any harm...the citizens advise beuro could also put you in touch with groups of people in the same situation.
My friend lost a baby at 3 months old....that was 7 years ago, she got through the worst of it with help from a supportive group, I know she suffered but she did find solace in sharing with others who had lost a child......no-one else can possibly understand.
I don't know much about god but if you find comfort in prayer....keep it up....be kind to yourself...you need time to grieve your terrible loss....there are people who care and can help.
x
2006-10-29 19:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Moby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are passing thru the stages of grief, in the blame stage. Baby's get strep B (bacteria) in the birth canal from the mother. The child cannot be immunized against this.
I'm an sorry for your loss and it is hard to understand how our God can take an innocent child. But we trust in Him and His reasoning. You are not alone. There are support groups that can help with the many questions you have. Give them a try.
2006-10-29 19:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by 8p8a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you and your wife Roy.
I've never been in the position that you find yourself right now, though when my mother died I did lose my Christian faith. How could a loving God let that happen? How could a loving God allow so much suffering in this world? It took me many years to find a path to tread, and now I am happy. I am at peace with myself, and at peace with the world.
I'd go along with the response that others have given and say that if you feel you have a case, seek legal representation.
As someone else has stated, you are currently grieving. There are more stages of this process that you have to go through before you come to terms with what has happened. In the meantime I would suggest you speak to your doctor and ask him/her about being referred for counselling. You may not feel that counselling is worthwhile, but just talking to someone that is not immediately affected will help to 'lighten the load'.
My own belief would be that it was not Amber's time to be born. She will return when the time is right. (Over that, we have no control. Only the ultimate power (God) does.)
May your God, and my Goddess wrap Their loving arms around you.
2006-10-30 22:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by micksmixxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry for your loss. I have been there too. The fact is that strep is everywhere. It is on the things that you pick up every day. It is present on the shopping cart that you push at the store. It is present on the gas pump handle. On the rail by the stairs. The hospitals are a breeding ground for it. But, since the baby was home for four weeks, the chances are that it was picked up elsewhere. Everyone, I mean everyone carries it at the back of their throat. It is just a fact of life.
May you have peace. It Will take at least one year to finally start getting back to normal. But it will never go away. My heart hurts for you.
2006-10-29 19:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is not an immunization for strep B.
However, my OB checked for strep B while I was pregnant. After she found out I was positive, they medicated me with antibiotics while I was in labor to prevent the baby from getting it.
I am not sure if it is part of what they call "standard" for checking during pregnancy. If so, it seems your OB may be more responsible than the hospital. Unless she ordered antibiotics and they didn't give them.
Talk to an attorney or legal nurse consultant about your case.
2006-10-30 00:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by spiritualjourneyseeker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So Sorry for your loss.....nothing is as painful as losing a child....a baby cannot be immunized for strep B.....unfortunately that is a naturally occuring virus that is present in most hospitals...you should talk to a lawyer and see if you have any recourse against the hospital....and please see a counselor to help you deal with your grief....God Bless...I am sure God has more plans for you and your family.
2006-10-29 19:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by kndykisz 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋