my mother in law hates me and i am afraid that she might take over my baby what shoul i do i love my parents i would let them stay any day just not my mom in law she might take over
2006-10-29 10:57:59 · 13 answers · asked by ♥ NïJâ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her you don't want her to stay, I would! Damn the mother in laws! lol
2006-10-29 11:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Emma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let YOUR mother stay with you, if you really feel the need to have someone there for you, for that long. If your mother-in-law is just going to drive you crazy, I'm telling you, DO NOT let her stay with you for 2 months. She will be a hinderance to you, not a help. Just say that you want YOUR mother to be there for you. I said that to my boyfriend's mother when I had my son, because I knew there was no way I could stand having her around me that much. I knew she'd stress me out, and I was already stressed out enough, bringing a new baby home for the first time. I wanted my mother there to help me, not his mother. I didn't stop her from seeing the baby or anything like that, I just didn't want her staying with me.
2006-10-29 19:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew my mother in law didn't like me she wouldn't be staying in my house, if you need help it should be YOUR mother for a while only because its basically girl stuff your gonna need help with anyway and who would be more fitting to help you with that than your own mother, the one who raised you and seen you in all your glory if you get my drift. Your husband will be at work all day and you will have to be home alone with this woman all day long, do you want that? Put your foot down and say no. Good Luck.
2006-10-29 19:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by jupitor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what will help you cope with new motherhood the best.
Tell your husband how you feel and let him break it to your mother-in-law that it's just not a good time for her to be there.
It might be nice to have your parents there, but you should clear it with your husband first. This is a time for you two to bond with your new child, and houseguests will add stress, no matter how well-intentioned they are.
All the best to you and your new family.
2006-10-29 19:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i had that same problem with my mother-in-law and she tried to take over my baby, and you said she was staying for 2months. My mother-in-law lives 3 hours away and she tries to come down every chance she gets. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-10-29 19:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your foot down NOW! You don't want people staying with you and your new baby. That is the most precious bonding time there is. I understand the excitement everyone wants to see you and the beautiful baby but that is way too much. NO NO NO! Just say it and if your husband doesn't support you he is a baffoon!!
2006-10-29 20:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first question would be how does your husband feel about your parents. I wouldnt let her come , tell her that its your mum you are use to and comfitable with and that for now you would prefer her to be there. That she is welcome to come over but make sure your husband is fine with your mum being there. He has to live with her to. In the end the best thing you can do is have both of them just visit you. You can go over to your mums everyday which will get you away from your mum in law. Good luck with it and remember she is your husbands mother talk to him.
2006-10-29 19:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is hard to put your cards on the table, but you may have to on this one. Your parents are the priority. You love them and trust them. Your mother-in-law should by no means be welcome in your house or life until she can overcome her hate with love, and you will know when the change has taken place, if ever.
2006-10-29 19:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew! That's a tough one and I sympathize with you! Have you discussed this with your husband? It will be difficult to keep "grandma" away from her son's newborn ...
Maybe if your parents expressed their desire to come FIRST, you could use that as the excuse, and tell monster-in-law she can come after your mom leaves. Maybe arrange for shorter visits for each set of parents. Two months with someone you don't get along with will be unbearable and unfair to you.
Bottom line, you should discuss it with your husband, and hopefully the two of you can come to an agreement on the visitation schedule, and then have HIM tell his mom.
Good luck ... there's no easy solution to this one!
2006-10-29 19:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband or your mother and law, let her know your parents will be helping you. i couldn't spend 2 months with my mother and law!!!
2006-10-29 19:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋