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I have a 7 year old neighber who always wants to play with me. Everytime I go outside she's always there asking if I can play. I'm 18 years old and have better things to do than play with a brat (I have a job, school, friends and a lot to deal with at home). But when I say no, she follows me around until I go back inside or into my car. Recently it's gotten worse, now the kid has the nerve to knock on my door EVERY SINGLE DAY to ask if I can play with her. At first I would open the door and tell her I had work to do then she would go "OK" and leave but 10 minutes later come back and ask if I had finished my work and could I play so now I don't even open the door and she just knocks louder and yells "Open the door!" which is a pain in the *** because it's usually when I'm taking a nap in the afternoons (I don't get much sleep at night). She does this because her parents push her on me because they're to lazy to play with her themselves so I can't talk to them. What should I do?

2006-10-29 10:49:38 · 14 answers · asked by Peace 6 in Society & Culture Etiquette

Great answers. Actually the problem began with her parents. Whenever I went outside they would be out there with her since she's obviously too young to be out in the street by herself and tell her "why don't you go play with mary for a while?" (i'm mary) and they wouldn't even ask me for permission. Then they would go inside and leave me outside with the kid by myself. They're always pushing her on all the other neighbors because they like to spend time alone, away from their kids. It's so frustrating. I'm not the only neighbor with this problem. But thanks for the suggestions everyone, I'll try them out.

2006-10-29 11:06:24 · update #1

14 answers

What a pain...I think you should tell her parents that she's becoming a nuisance and that they have to tell her she can't go to your house anymore. If you don't talk to her parents then you'll have to hurt the little girl's feelings and I don't know if you want to do that or not.

2006-10-29 10:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 5 0

Tell her parents that she is becoming a problem and if that doesn't work just ignore the child. When she talks to you don't talke back, if you answer the door and she is their just close the door and pretend you didn't see anyone. She will keep bothering you for a few days but eventually she will get the idea and move on.

2006-10-29 19:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 2 · 1 0

Have you tried to talk with her parents? Sounds like she is lonely or she just thinks you are really cool! I know it is a pain but please be careful of her feelings. She's a kid and being a girl I would say she is seeking out a role model ....ta da! It just so happens to be you! If talking to her parents doesn't work then sit down with the kid and explain to her that you are a poor substitute for friends her own age. Maybe even help her find some friends her own age maybe give her parents some ideas like enrolling her in brownies or soccer or someother youth activity. It couldn't hurt to try.

2006-10-29 18:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by siiyfv 1 · 4 0

This really makes me sad. The poor girl is looking for someone to give her the attention that she needs so bad. Worse, she no doubt knows you don't want her around but who else does she have but you? I would find some friends or others she could hang around or maybe include her now and then but not everyday. Even if you just spend a few minutes will be a help to her.

2006-10-29 18:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Brianne 7 · 4 0

You have a kind heart and I think enough is enough the girl needs to learn some social skills. Tell her you have homewrok to do from your work and tell her parents you are studying for further education and you need the next two months to study and concentrate.

Hopefully after this spell of peace she would have a new routine and you will be left alone to be a normal neighbour.

2006-10-29 19:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by SunGod 4 · 1 0

I'm about to ask a stupid question: Have you thought of calling the local child abuse network about this? They are obviously not taking care of her, she's being allowed to harass you, and you should not have to deal with it. You might ask a local police officer to speak to her parents about it, or if you have a lawyer friend, ask them to write her parents a letter reminding them of the law in regard to trespass, stalking and harassment. Short of being so hostile you leave yourself open to some nasty retaliation (I had a neighbor kid take the headlight out of my car because I asked him to be quiet while my husband was sleeping, and he was just 8) that's about all you can do.

2006-10-29 19:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 1 0

Call child services. seriously. They they can start to document how often they foist their kid into the 'street'. You are not paid, therefore you are just a neighbor that is NOT watching their kid. A favor is a favor but not when it intrudes.
If she comes aknocking... call services for like immediately to come to witness her banging on your door. Then they will have to wonder WHY.
I say all this because I asked C.S. to come to my house to deal with my truent daughter and they take their documentation very seriously. THEY will knock on the parents door to ask them why she keep banging on your door... an UNPAID neighbor. Good luck.

2006-10-29 19:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by Valeria 4 · 1 0

I think it is great experience to work with a child. You must be a great role model....she looks up to you..just imagine what it would be like if you didn't spend time with her...she might turn out different. I do understand the frustration with her parents though...that's wrong but happens all the time.

2006-10-29 21:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by RainbowBrite 1 · 1 1

Tell the parents that you will call Childrens Protective Services because they are not taking care of her. Maybe then they will do something. If they don't, make that call.

2006-10-29 19:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by sheeny 6 · 2 1

Tell the kid you are busy, like really and if that doesn't work, you HAVE to go talk to her parents!!!

2006-10-29 19:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Nobody 2 · 2 0

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