2006-10-29 10:48:37 · 19 answers · asked by ♥ NïJâ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she sounds like a jerk. tell him about it.
2006-10-29 10:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must simply ( and calmly) explain to her that as much as you wish that she felt differently, that if she cannot change her behavior, she is going to find that the consequences are serious....she will lose contact with her son and her grandchild. Because as long as marriages have existed the truth has been that when people marry, they begin a new family.Not that they are through with their parents, but that now they have to give more consideration to the future.
So, tell her that, and stress that since you and your husband will have to care more about the well-being of your child than for her feelings...That you will stay away from her. Because it would be wrong for your child to ever experience her meanness.
And then MOST IMPORTANTLY : Stick to it! It is an empty threat otherwise, and she will always be the one in control.
2006-10-29 20:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by PerfectRose 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to speak to your husband. And if he's in denial
then record the conversation when he's not around, just don't tell him that your going to do this. Because if he mention it to his mom, then she will change her attitude. Keep your self busy so
you don't have to see her or talk to her. Make it noticeable to her that you will not tolerate her behavior. But yet you will respect
your husband feeling and he should respect your feelings. When
my daughter was just dating her husband, his mom would pick
her up at our house and as soon as she heard she became pregnant then the story changed and didn't want nothing to do with my daughter and baby. As of today they both have 2 children
and his mom still acts like she doesn't care for her son, my daughter, and my two rand-daughters. I told her just to ignore
her stupidity and rudeness. So like I said ignore her stupidity
the only reason she is acting like this is because he has his
own family now and she feel s left out of his. You know mama's
boy.
2006-10-29 19:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me.
My ex-mother-in-law would say some really hurtful and abusive things to me...until the day I cussed her out!
I cussed her until I nearly foamed at the mouth!
I didn't let up and I didn't apologize; not to her and not to my ex-husband!
She was very cool towards me after that, but I didn't even care!
Sometimes you have to GO THERE!
A good cussing-out is therapeutic; it can clear the air and clarify boundaries!
From THAT day until the day I divorced her sorry-@ssed son, SHE was not a problem!
Now, if YOU choose to adopt this route, commit to it and follow through!
DO NOT whine!
DO NOT cry!
DO NOT back down!
You MUST BE angry...full on!
If you have to GO THERE on her in front of others...DO NOT whine...DO NOT cry...DO NOT back down!
Whatever comes up needs to come out...full on!
Clear the air and clarify the boundaries; it's for YOUR good!
2006-10-29 19:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your mother-in-law lives with you? If yes, you can't avoid her being mean. Your husband needs to defend you. She is probably threatened by you because your husband pay more attention to you than her. She is probably competing for your husband's attention. Your husband married you, not her. Tell your husband about this and see how he reacts. If he says you're overreacting, then you willl have a miserable life because your husband will always take his mom side.
Wish you luck.
2006-10-29 18:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by mbm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in laws are a pain in the but sometimes. if you can record her saying such things to you let your hubby hear them otherwise you will have to try to confront her in front of him. don't stress too much over this cause that wont be good for the baby.
2006-10-29 18:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to be told right away! He's your husband, your partner, and the father of your child. It doesn't matter that this is his mother, what matters is that his Mother is verbally abusing you! Tell him to remove his Mother or you will leave. Okay, sorry, that's what "I" would do. Good luck.
2006-10-29 22:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you never told us why she hates you and why does she speak to you like that (trash) if you are pregnant i really hope once the baby is born it could bring the two of yous together but i wouldnt count on it if i was you good luck fyi next time give us more information to go on so we can all at least try to help you better ok .....E
2006-10-29 18:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you took her baby from her, your hubby.
Second tell her that she is going to be a grandmother and her actions are going to cause problems.
Third get a recording device and record her if she doesn't stop for the grandchild.
Then let your husband listen to it. and the three of you may be able to work it out.
2006-10-29 19:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by ftroa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother in law seems to be a jealous and immature woman, I would try my best not to let it get to you. I am sorry you have to deal with this. Just try not to spend anymore time with her than you have to. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-29 18:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just avoid here and make sure to act like it doesnt bother you about what she said and stuff. Dont let her ruin your life with her son. Tell hem that shes doing this to you, and he should say something if he realy cares about you.
2006-10-29 18:53:15 · answer #11 · answered by wendykitty808 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋