Hi, me and my boyfriend have a good time in bed. but theres one problem, i perfer the slower, softly softly type approach whereas he prefers more harder and faster. Im ok with that but it would be nice if we could do it half my way and half his way or sometimes way i perfers and other times way he perfers. Ive told him i prefers softer and slower and he manages it for a whole 30 seconds or something lol but usually ends up going back to how he likes. I dont realy know what to do, he is the only guy ive ever slept with and sometimes its frustrating that i dont know what it would be like with another guy. do they all like fast and hard lol? am i just not sexualy compatible with my partner? or am i just asking for something no guys like to do? what do u think? please answer!
2006-10-29 10:46:12 · 17 answers · asked by jiveybaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there are times were he does do it my way and i enjoy it heaps more(well i always enjoy it but its just better ya know) but its more like 90% its how he likes it best and 10% me.
2006-10-29 10:48:21 · update #1
In my opinion, if the sex isn't good, then you need to walk away from this relationship. Sexual relations in a relationship should be very intimate, very personal and very important to both parties involved. If your boyfriend is only out for himself in the bedroom, then I'd have to say he will be pretty much the same outside the bedroom.
I'd suggest you talk to him again. If he continues to ignore your needs and only concentrates on what pleases him, then I'd say you need to reexamine your relationship. If he makes an effort to compromise, then you may have a future.
All men and women like to have sex in different ways, and it's normal to be curious about what it would be like to be with another person. But if you aren't satisfied right now, and things do not change in the bedroom - then most likely you will either soon discover what other men are like or you will resent this man later in the future.
Good Luck!!
2006-10-29 11:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are asking too much! (I'm a guy, incidentally) What concerns me is that you have discussed your desires with him and he is unable or unwilling to honor your wishes. Even I think that's pretty selfish of him!
This is the first guy you've slept with. I hope there will be others. I wish some of the girsl I've slept with over the years had been more up front with me about their sexual wants! I'd have been a much better lover.
Don't change anything about yourself! Always be honest with your lover and if you don't get what you want in the bedroom, find someone else that will give it to you!
2006-10-29 10:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... not all guys are like that.
I can't exactly say this with a lot of authority, since being a straight guy I haven't sexed up any other guys..... but generally you'll find peoples' sexual habits can be as varied as their personalities.
Some will like it hard and fast. Some will prefer it agonisingly slow.
And then there are those like me who would rather not bother most of the time... and will eat a woman out if it'll shut her up about being randy for a while.
2006-10-29 10:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You like what you like and theres nothing wrong with that. Sounds like he is using you and doesnt care about your likes or needs.
Suggest a place where he can buy a nice blow-up doll and perhaps some lube. Then find a guy who respects you enough to try to make you happy. There are plenty of us who actually listen and respond to women in a supportive way.
2006-10-29 10:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by sabor69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically without saying it he told you he doesn't care how you feel it's all about him and the bad thing is he won't change. Each time sex is different sometimes it's fast and hard and sometimes it's lovemaking which is slow with lots of touching so if you tell him what you want and he doesn't feel a need to do it tell him goodbye and move on.
2006-10-29 10:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take a place cuz i go slow when im on top i go slow but whan my mans on top he gos fast but sometimes slow but if u want to go slow the best time to do it is last like have him do all the work when u start and than u take over and go slow wen ur on top it all work out 4 both of u but get on top b 4 he comes lol :)
2006-10-29 10:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by loveekla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey u should just ask him if you could do it hard and slow then you are bolth happy and I sure know that guys like it hard but I would rather have it slow so it will last longer!!! oh and pleeze give me points I need them
2006-10-29 10:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by Tanner B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to teach guys what u like. Maybe you could F*** him the way he like first, get on top and go buck wild. after you finish give him a little oral pleasure and ask him to to it the way you like or just get on top and show him the way you like. When he is going slow make sure you over exagerrate you excitement to show him you REALLY like it.
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2016-10-20 23:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by dampier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing worng with slow and easy! If you can't train him trade him in for a new and improved model!
2006-10-29 10:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋