If you were me,How would you respond to my Girlfriend's e-mail?Please help! Thanks.?

Question

Sexy,
It's taken me several days to figure out what to say. I guess we have a lot of distance between us and, unfortunately, very little free time on my part. Somtimes I can't help but feel maybe you have gotten pretty serious about seeing me, but I haven't been able to keep up. You usually contact me several times each day either by email, text, phone, or chat, and I am running out of energy to reply. Your special e-greetings, though incredibly nice, are not necessary.

I just don't think we don't need to keep in touch every single day. When we have this much physical distance between us, there is not much to talk everyday about because we don't really interact, unless something extrordinary happens during the day. And, if you give me a chance to miss you, maybe I will start thinking that this is more of a long-term thing. I was thinking maybe we could get in touch once or twice a week instead of what we're doing now. Don't get me wrong, I really enjoy the chats & things, but I cannot continue to do that every day.

So, I guess I will still be seeing you on Wednesday (unless "friend" comes along!) and I will talk to you sometime before then to make sure nothing has changed the plans.

Have a wonderful remainder of the weekend,

Pumpkin

Answer 1

she's met someone else and you are too needy.

Answer 2

I'd break up with her. I have a distance relationship and i hate not hearing from my man for more than 7 hrs. ( can't talk to him during school). At least talk to her. Like ask her if maybe just once a day or something. Once a week is not a lot and it can ruin a relationship. Not talking to someone for a long time can make you "forget" about the person. Like, Out of site- out of mind, right? My opinion: she wants more time for someone else. I think that the more distance there is the more there is to talk about, right? You don't know what she did that day. If you were there you might know. So, i'd reply back to her telling her that once a week isn't enough. It broke my sister and her bf up because he told her he wanted to talk once a week... it didn't work. Follow your heart. But see if she'll let you talk more or ditch her.

Answer 3

You should back wayyyy off, but considering some people have this 'need' to play games of the heart and mind by the disappearing, Im ignoring you thing! But once you've fallen in love, it's difficult to come up for air/reality if that person really hasnt been unkind. That letter is not entirely unkind but it's self preserving.
And the letter sounds a bit like talking to a child.
It's truthful, I'll give it that. But, it would turn me off some and I'd probably lose a great deal of interest and eventually move on.

Answer 4

When you are in a relationship it is common to get in touch with that person at least once a day and nothing good or bad should have to happen when you really have feelings for someone you want to hear there voice at least once a day. Once a week is absurd and it sounds like you are not her only lover or she just does not want to be serious with you, and that whole if you find a friend thing means she wouldn't really care if you decided to date someone else. She is just using you as a Wednesday booty call either except that or leave her alone.

Answer 5

Well, since you liked one of my answers before.. i thought i would give this one a shot... but i'm not going to tell you what i think you should say.. but tell you how to maybe help the situation. By what she is saying, and i guess feeling, and obviously writing... to her she is not far enough in the relationship where she can be all like "its been a day since i've seen you i miss you so much,,, i have to call you right now... " i guess?... It seems more to me that you want more out of her right now, than she does out of you, and its starting to annoy her about that situation. Believe me... i've been where you are now, and all i can say is that you just have to take a few steps back... give the other person their space, and make them miss you. Like she wrote, if you don't call her so much i guess she'll start missing you.. .that really does work. Trust me. So send her back an email telling her how you feel about the situation, and then just give her a little time, and she'll be calling you in no time. Good luck... hey.. another thinker.. good job.

Katie<3

Answer 6

The part she wrote that said "if you give me a chance to miss you" was pretty much the entire gist of the letter. Pumpkin doesnt want to be smothered by a needy clingy person. She wants you to stand on your own two feet and not depend on her for your every move thru out the day. She doesnt need YOU to pull her down but rather to stand beside her and be her partner. If she wanted a child she would have one or adopt one. She made it clear she enjoys your company but she doesnt have the time or energy to maintain your needs 22.5 hours out of the day. So, overall, and I say this in all kindness, but you need to get a life that doesnt include her in the center. She wants to be a part of your life, not the entire universe of your life. Get it? Once you GET IT you will have her.

So, stop smothering her and ease up. Remember, she should be your friend above all.

Good luck........and to her as well.

Answer 7

Sounds like she's looking for you to back off a bit. like maybe you're falling in love with her and she's not feeling the same. I would tell her that you understand that she needs a little more space and you'll do your best to respect that. You can tell her that you don't mean to be smothering her, but she's a special person to you and you want her to understand that. Also ask her to let you know the next time you are coming on too strong. Good luck!

Answer 8

Pumpkin,
Apparently your brain his misfired and you are under the delusional impression that we will do this on your terms only. Well, I've reviewed your terms and find them rather unsatisfactory and not to my liking. At this time, please note that I too am quite busy with this at that. I have had a lot of time to reflect upon your letter and the tone in which it was written. Things have become very clear to me. After further review, I am no longer interested in you. Believe me, my phone calls, emails, text messaging, and chat services are no longer available to you...effective today. Also note that no response is required from you, as I dictate the terms of this relationship, which is over.

~Big Pimp ~

Answer 9

Wow, that was a little harsh. I think it seems ya have different personalities. You like to talk and interact with her all the time but she likes her space and would rather think about you and communicate with ya once in a while... I honestly dont know what to tell ya to do... Are you guys long distance relationship or something?

Answer 10

aw..as i've read her email, she seems very nice and she put telling you to contact her not very often in a nice, civilized way..she is very nice and i think worth everything. just tell her you're sorry for bothering her too much and it's just because of the long distance thing that you want her to know how much you miss her voice and how much you miss her.. and you promise that you will give her a chance to miss you sometime and that you love her.
that simple..just change this from a 2nd person point of view to a first person point of view. i hope i helped =D

Answer 11

she's tired of the crap and looking for something totally more serious and mature, and also a real life warm body she's not to attracted to the computer anyone can type anything but your actions is what people put must of there opinions in sorry but your gonna have to break out the wallet and date buddy Good LUCK